Stick to your boundary, Apple. You are correct: you deserve so much more than waiting for someone who is carrying on with some else.
I fight the loneliness, Jellybeans. I fight the urge to beg for him. I fight to resist ANY contact with him. I have not been in contact with him for 3 days now, other than a very brief, less than a minute talk about the kids. I only saw him for a moment this morning as he left the house (to go be with her, I'm sure) but I did not speak to him. I am avoiding as much contact as possible with him. Even though it hurts, I gotta rip that band-aid right off. It hurts so bad that I have to be alone everyday and he gets to be with someone. He's not lonely or miserable or sad. It's not fair that we all have to suffer for his actions. I hope he rots.
I know it's hard. You will come out of this okay. I can tell you are a good person, I am truly sorry you are going through this. I wish you and your children well. Posted via Mobile Device
I fight the loneliness, Jellybeans. I fight the urge to beg for him..
::Smack!:: No begging, ok? The loneliness--totally normal. You will have ups and downs. You are going through a lot and SO much BS you don't need to be. When will you see the lawyer?
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Originally Posted by AppleDucklings
He's not lonely or miserable or sad. It's not fair that we all have to suffer for his actions. I hope he rots.
He is in the FOG. That is why you much detach/remove yourself as an option. The sooner, the better. He is NOT going to feel the loss of you until he realizes you are gone. Trust me.
::Smack!:: No begging, ok? The loneliness--totally normal. You will have ups and downs. You are going through a lot and SO much BS you don't need to be. When will you see the lawyer?
He is in the FOG. That is why you much detach/remove yourself as an option. The sooner, the better. He is NOT going to feel the loss of you until he realizes you are gone. Trust me.
Don't worry, I have not begged him. Sometimes I do think I should but I know that will do no good. I know that will only make me look weak and pitiful. It's not easy standing strong though when I so bad just want his arms around me.
I last spoke to a lawyer a week ago but I could not afford to hire that one, so I am still looking.
I know you have some people you talk to on here and that you don't know me from Adam but, if you need someone to talk to.....feel free to contact me. (((HUGS))) Posted via Mobile Device
I know you have some people you talk to on here and that you don't know me from Adam but, if you need someone to talk to.....feel free to contact me. (((HUGS))) Posted via Mobile Device
Thank you Pidge. I will private message you my email address.
I am trying to be strong. I'm trying to avoid him as much as possible. I want him to miss me but as long as he has "her" he won't be lonely and he won't miss me.
I am trying to be strong. I'm trying to avoid him as much as possible. I want him to miss me but as long as he has "her" he won't be lonely and he won't miss me.
You are being strong. Three days feels like a lifetime. I get lonely too. Your best friend just stopped liking you.
Every time I have little victory I turn around to tell her she is not there..
PM me too, another stranger who understands. Stay strong.
You know what?
He doesn't know what he wants right now.
He is in la la land with this new babe.
She lives at home with her two kids?
Not gonna last.
and she loves someone else. My H and hers affair lasted from Nov 2010 to Feb 2011 (this is what she has told me) She says she ended it with my H b/c she did not want to ruin a family. My husband has developed some sort of high school type of infatuation on her and continues to pursue her. She lets him pursue her in spite of me asking her to just go away.
She is playing hard-to-get and that could be why he's going after her.
You should do the same. No calls, E-mails, texts.......NADA, NOTHING............pretend that you became a widow three days ago.
Someone gave me that advice once and for some weird reason it kept me strong.
If he got hit by a car, you would have to go on.
You'd have to be strong for your children. You'd have to pay the bills, wash the clothes, replace the lightbulbs, take care of your children by yourself etc....
Do what you said before: Lose weight, eat haelthy, new glasses, new hair style, some new clothes, maybe a manicure and LEAVE HIM ALONE !!!!!!!!
I read one of your old posts and something came to mind:
Do you think that the OW is using your husband to shake things up with her "boyfriend?"
I dont know honestly. I secretly follow her twitter page which is full of little tweets about how she loves this guy and how she wants to be with him. She has told me, in our email communications, that my husband is trying to help her win back this guy. Which I know is not the case. He is only playing "nice friend" to get her to want him.
Re: just found the proof 
