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"Just a friend" needs to go away already

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Apologies for starting yet a new thread. I know someone of you do not like that because it can get confusing but right now, I just needed to start writing. Well, from my earlier post, I said found the proof that my H was sleeping with "just a friend". I confronted him with this proof. He confessed to some things but not all. So, I emailed her and I asked her. She emailed me back and was upfront with me. I thanked her for answering my questions and asked her to leave my family alone. Obviously that did not matter to her none as I was just eavesdropping on my H on the phone with her. He is actually still on the phone with her as I write this. I couldn't stomach to listen any longer. He is pro-fusing his love for her. He is going on and on and on about how "good" she makes him feel and how he can't stop thinking of her and how his thoughts are consumed with her, day in and day out. I listened as he painted a little picture of a place they went to make out at. Now, here is the big twist. She is in love with another guy. She actually proposed marriage to this other guy. But he will not be with her right now while she is in contact with my H. So, she is in love with this other guy, my husband is in love with her. And my H cant see the nose at the end of his face thanks to his fog. He cant see the damage that is being done to our family. All he is, is focused on "winning her and waiting for as long as he has too" (his quote I over heard him say) I walked away right about there. I knew there was more. I knew she was more than "just a friend" I tried to prepare myself to soften the blow because I knew the truth would come out eventually. But it still hurts like hell. My H is drunk, walking around the house in his underwear and confessing his "love" to another woman. Oh, and he also told me that he no longer considers us married. That our marriage is only a piece of paper standing in his way and that he would pursue her with everything he had because she is what he wants and that it's time he (quote) "stops denying himself of her".
I think I need to go vomit now.
 
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#165 ·
he took our 6 year old daughter to go to the park to meet up with that husband stealing ***** and her 2 kids. When I found out, I just broke down. I just cannot stopping crying right now. What makes this ***** good enough but not his wife of almost 14 years? What makes her so wonderful but the person who devoted over a decade to him gets sh*t on?
 
#168 ·
I just texted you but I will say it again, yes....you.....do......this woman is harmful in every way to your family, and just exposing your daughter to her is harmful in the fact that when she finds out who this woman is and what she is doing with daddy, it is gonna hurt even worse that she met her. Like I texted you, if you were dating a known child molester, do you think that your H would let your kids around him at all?
 
#169 ·
Ok, first, I would NOT date a known molester. Gimme some credit,. lol. I know the guys I pick are real winners but still, lol. I debated on keeping my daughter home with me and not letting her go with her dad but also thought about how does that work with the 180. If I had a fit right in front of my husband about this, how would I look to him? But if I played it off like I didnt care, how would that look to him? Although I did give him a very dirty look.
 
#172 ·
Not soon enough JB. Not soon enough. I just hate that he gets to go off and be with somebody while I have to hurt. It's hard to pretend to be happy when inside you are shattered.
 
#171 ·
OF COURSE you wouldn't date a child molester, I was just using that as an example, an extreme one, but just an example lol. Set up some boundaries, he is to be spending time with HIS child, not his child and this slaggy pos and her children, his time with your kids is supposed to be directed at THEM. I told H that if he ever dated last EA, no way in hell was she allowed around my kids, as she is NOT the kind of influence I want on my children, esp. my preteen and teenage daughter. He tried to throw it back at me with oh you are saying your would withhold our kids against me? I said no YOU can see them whenever you want, just not when she could be around.
 
#174 ·
Just read some of this - good news is that your life has a lot of room for improvement, right? You've been so miserable for so long that being happy might be hard to get used to - once you get there.

Not sure what to do about the kids and the park. I'm sure they'll figure it out one day. When your H is cheating on his 5th wife, and you either married to prince charming, or even a single mom focused on keeping her familiy/kids together. They'll get it - and will want nothing to do with him.

Don't you just love the idea of two low life's falling in love? Its only matter of time before history repeats and one of them is ruining this new wonderful relationship they have together.

Hang in there. Even being a single mom will be better than this crap - and I'm sure you know that even if its hard to see right now.
 
#176 ·
So my H brings my daughter home and she tells me about how she saw daddy and "friend" hugging each at the park. That made me feel so sick to my stomach. What kind of bastard is he!
 
#180 ·
Ok, he should not be exposing the children to OW while you are both still married and both of you are still living together.. that is sending your daughter a HUGE bad messege....

Tell him if he wants to visit his daughter.. he needs to do it on HIS time without HER.. she has no reason to visit YOUR daughter, she has no claim on YOUR daughter. So she can back off of HIS visitation time.

Ok I said my piece.. wheres that bottle of wine?
 
#181 ·
omg i hate how stupid some ppl are! my ex did the same thing I wanted to beat him, but my daughter came home saying "I woke up cuz i heard daddy shaking the bed" It was disgusting. The next time he wanted them to visit I told him not to shake the bed with my kids around. I said my daughter heard everything.
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#183 ·
My H moved to a new office last December. The day he moved, I asked my 12 year old if he knew about the move. My son said "The only reason Dad switched offices is so he can be with (OW), my new step-mom!" That was my first hint of the affair!!!! And my poor son already knew. Duh!
 
#184 ·
**** the OW WS would be lucky to wake up the next morning if they told my children that.If you live out in the desert I have a solution for you a shovel a full tank of gas and if you want a gun but I suggest just duct tape. Drive thirty fifty miles out into the desert. Dig a whole remeber the mile marker from where you got off the freeway, now go back find husband. Hit on head with shovel. Duct tape his **** stained underwear into his mouth and bind his arms and legs well with duct tape. Put in trunk of car. Drive back out to desert place husband in hole. Bury everything but his head. Slap him till he regains conciousness.Wait till panic leaves his eyes. Look him in eyes smile lovingly and walk off.
 
#186 ·
Get ready to vomit. I found this on the ow myspace page. My H wrote this to her.....You feel as if you are not good enough for someone. Have you ever thought you deserve better? That this person/s don't deserve to breathe the same air as you and should be blessed just to be able to be in your presence. You are a bright light in an otherwise dark place. You deserve so much more. Please don't think it is all you. Some are too cowardly and stupid to grasp what is in front if them, yearning for their love. You are not just good enough, you are perfect.
 
#191 ·
I am actuallynot that nice of a guy just to people I care about, in reality I am twisted ****ed up person. And if my wife pulled that **** with my child to where oh this is your new stepfather before even coming to me yeah... desert...duct tape....shovel. Probaly go as far as place OM in front of her with his new second smile while she baked in the desert everyday.....Told you I am sick
 
#193 ·
Yes, vomit!

So OW was flying into town last Friday and I was able to see her facebook page. She posted that she was about to fly to FL and my H wrote "I can't friggin wait!!!!!!" with a bunch of hearts. Then she posted when she was leaving her layover and how excited she was and he posted, "Only 2 more hours until I get my hug" and then someone told him to give her best hug ever and he replied, "Oh, I will give her the biggest hug she's ever had and never let her go." VOMIT!
 
#194 ·
I'm sorry Lost, that is so hard to have to read. Who do our spouses think they are? That note my H wrote to the OW, which sounded all sweet and caring, he never spoke that way to me. Why does she get to have a nice side of him and I get walked all over? Why does he think he needs to be her hero and I get left behind?
 
#195 ·
@LOL . . . Double VOMIT

@Apple . . . My H used to be SO SWEET to me. Then, during his text/email affair, he'd send me endearments, and then send almost the same to her!!!! He was on a business trip to San Diego and sent me a photo of the harbor from his hotel window. Caption " Beautiful, just like you!" I read his email, and HER caption was "Such a beautiful view, wish I could share it with you!"
Just twisted!!!!
 
#196 ·
Damn, now she has a picture of them together as her facebook profile pic. Barf.
 
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