Re: caught him again
13th, from alot of overhearing I am gathering, evidently me locking myself in different rooms and going other places in the house wasn't good enough, but it is what it is, I will be getting him into counseling and undoing the damage. I am not being his doormat anymore, he knows exactly what needs to happen in order to ever come home, and I will NOT waver. I am undecided how long I am going to wait, I don't want to put a time limit on it now when I am so back and forth in between anger/sadness/pity. I won't wait forever. Turnera, my girls have been doing alot to help, unfortunately, they aren't the best at it, lol, for many years when I tried to institute rules and chores and whatnot, he never backed me up, told me I was being to hard on them, well dude isn't here now, **** is gonna change, and my girls aren't gonna like it lol. He's not here, I am going to raise my children the way I choose to, chores, earning stuff. Daddy was very permissive, and never backed me up, my girls are in for a very rude awakening. Someone has to step up and raise these kids right, I am tired of being all of their doormat. My inner hardass had been beaten down for so long, I lost her, she's baaaaaack.
By fault of my own, I didn't stand up to my husband and insist that we be harder on them, there were things that he felt I should do, like the chores for the horses, because I am the one that wanted them, well you know what? I had to go and help feed bottle lambs that were my uncles, they weren't mine. It's part of being in a household. If I am cooking them dinner, there's no reason they can't water the horses, am I supposed to cook supper, do dishes, AND do the chores? My husband has gotten so skewed for so long, he doesn't know which end is up anymore. Yes I could have the girls start dinner and I could do the chores, but I am already in the house, and start it at a certain time, and besides if I say you do it, you do it. My eldest has massive attitude for her age, and she doesn't like it that I am calling her on it, this is gonna be an interesting ride.....but hopefully they will respect me for actually helping them shape good habits, and not look back fondly at dad for letting them get away with murder most of the time.
Last edited by paramore; 05-09-2011 at 11:37 PM.