Although this is an old thread, I feel for you Kevin. Went through the same thing.
Started when my wife started locking her phone, turning it off as i approached her and her storties about coming 'straight from work' didnt add up.
She also was very promiscuous when we met and told me that she has had affairs with other married men before (after I confronted her that I saw her instant messages)
I had the ability to see her instant messenger and what she typed. She was bragging on her personal facebook group ( a private group accessible by only invitees) how she was meeting this one, havign an affair with a married man, 'doing' this rich guy etc). It was so hurtful to see this. I literally had tears in my eyes.
I treated her well and was a good provider for her and my daughter. I paid for everything in the house. She was still working and God knows what she was doing with her money.
So she left and started her old habit, chatting with random men and actually meeting them and being physical with them. The conversation would turn very crude within 20 minutes and she would tell those totla strangers my daughters name and sometimes her address so they could come over. I fear for my daughter's security. She would even tell those guys my name and where I hang out and my description; for what reasons? I dont know and neither does anyone.
When I confronted her about that, she became very annoyed that I was spying on her and told me and i kid you not "they are harmless"; really you barely even know these guys and they know my daughter's anme and your adress and even where I hang out? Of course she replied oh it's a joke. Obviously she is ver detached from 'real life'.
But we are now going to 'joint counseling'; what would that solve, I fear nothing since she is still seeing other men. Not sure why she even agreed to go to joint counseling.
Im still very hurt about it but I am healing faster now, as if im having some closure that my marriage is over.
I'm sure there is a woman out there that would appreciate me and what I have to offer.
I worked two jobs and one of them as a Reservist in the guard to provide for my family; nice new house, car for her, I carry all the insurances. So I feel like an idiot for having been taken advantage of.
On to new things as I know I have a lot to offer. One day at a time
Take it easy Kevin and hope you're doing well.