why do You think the cheated on spouse is to blame?
I'm soul searching. I have read and read where 90% of the people blame the spouse for failing to make the cheater happy.
I'm not that kind of spouse. I got cheated on. Now in therapy sessions he is listing things he wants me to change. I list things I want him to change. I want him to acknowledge I exist, show he loves, cares and wants me.
He has so far listed every piece of my personality, my cooking, my housekeeping, how I breathe even.
Seems to me he wants a different woman all together.
Sure I dropped the ball with the marriage, but it is not all my fault that it got stale. I got tired of an absent husband, father, lover and friend. I just trudged through thinking that someday we would find each other again.
He says he is wrong and sorry for the affair. He wants to stay together and be a happy couple again. But he also claims all he did to cause the marriage to fail is give up on the marriage and look for another woman.
HELLO. Did he come to me for sex? NO. Did he try to talk? NO. Did he avoid me and family at any cost? YES.
Pipe in and lets see just how many out there really think when a spouse cheats, it is the other spouses resposibility to fix it, and take the blame.