Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Re: How Can I Fully Trust My Husband Again?
reading your situation hit me hard because I am in the exact same situation. I have a history with my husband and I have tried trusting him again, but as soon as he starts talking to some girl on FB, or through text messages that he shouldn't be talking to, he erases them (I always find out later) It's why I know of every situation. I have never caught him cheating, so I can't say he has, but wanting a man that is there for you the same way you are there for him is not a lot to ask for. My problem is that I have been with him for over six years and am getting ready to deliver our third baby in September. A week or two ago he received texts from a girl I specifically told him that I didn't want him talking to because of the "unappropriate" text messages I found in his phone last summer. I also specifically told her the same thing. It's frustrating.
If I were you, I would leave him now if you have no kids, before the situation gets worse. I have let my husband talk bad to me with the same verbal abuse that you said your husband tells you, we should not be putting up with it. I have been scarred of going through the courts and fighting for my kids because I don't have a stable job. A few weeks ago I almost left him. But on FB while I was at my moms and he at his parents promised me that he wanted respect from both sides and that he would start. well it lasted about two days and I regret ever coming back. Since then, I have been on eggshells again waiting for something to come out of his big mouth. It's never okay for me to tell him anything.
You know what though, it's easy to tell someone to do the obvious thing, but it's hard to actually do it. I can tell you to get away, but you might want to put up with it longer. If this is the case and you have no kids. Get what you can out of the situation. School, help, go to the gym, improve your self esteem and get out there make some good friends, have fun and take advantage of being alive... now... If he keeps bursting your bubble and making you feel down, then you know he wasn't the one.
He's laying next to me, without a clue of what goes on in my head. The funny thing is, that I have told him way to many times. Few men care... Honestly though If I didn't have the stretch marks and the pounds that my first born gave me, if my boobs were bigger and my waist smaller, I'm sure he wouldn't be as rude to me as he is now.
I could do my relationship all over again, I would have chosen to never do it at all. my kids are my kids, they are my blessing and my curse to him. Good luck. If you need someone to talk to, Just let me know. Sorry about it. it sucks to be in this position.