Re: Just found out my husband is cheating..
Do not ever compromise and throw the open marriage thought out of the window. Print out copies of the evidence , secure an electronic copy where your husband cannot find it. When you confront you are not negotiating, you are stating facts, be calm and do not agree to anything until you have a clear mind and ask for advice here. Show him the evidence, tell him you are aware of his affair with another man and that is not what you signed up to when you married him. He will take a couple of routes , be open and honest , lie and deny or blame you. As you cannot verify his honesty don't believe him.
Make it clear the affair ends now, tell him before he touches you again you want him tested for STD's .
Call your parents and his and tell them of the affair, in your case you may be embarrassed as it is with a man however be clinical and follow through with this, you do not want an angry husband who has deceived his marriege and lied about his sexual preferences gaslighting you to everyone plus you will need support.
Be strong don't blink, if you feel you are losing control step away from him and tell him to give you space.
Do not leave the house , if push comes to shove he leaves.
Hang in there get past this first , breathe then post again.
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Last edited by Eli-Zor; 05-12-2011 at 08:59 AM.