Anonymos friend ? Or what? What to do?
Quick re-cap. A couple of years ago one of my wife's friends told me I needed to be careful because my wife "liked to forget she was married" I did watch and all the signs of an affair were there. Things came to a head at the end of March of this year and we decided to divorce. After a few weeks I decided to forgive and try and forget and we started trying to work things out. Now things still aren't great but she really seemed to be trying to reconnect with our marriage and start acting like a wife and mother, more so the last few weeks.
Present day. I get a card in the mail, no surprise as my birthday is next week. I open it up and see it's a sympathy card, ha,ha, I know I'm getting old. I open the card and read the note, "Cooper, you need to know that (wife) is talking to a lawyer and planning on filing for divorce. Freeze your assets and get an attorney quick! I want things to work out for you.
Wow, was I shocked! I have an idea of who sent the card but it wasn't signed so I won't bring it up to her.
First thing I did was transfer half our savings into a new account, I lowered our credit card max to $750 and this weekend I will open a new checking account in my name only. I'm just trying to make sure she doesn't spend the money and run.
Now what do I do? Wait for her to drop the D bomb? I don't think I can wait without confronting her but I don't want to mention the card and by no means would I show it to her and take a chance she may reconize the hand writing. I handle all the finances so it may take a while for her to notice what I have done. I need to be two steps ahead of her so I don't get screwed!
I am so stressed out I can't think straight, what do I need to do next?
Last edited by Cooper; 10-10-2008 at 07:55 PM.
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