Television / Movies
2+ years post D-Day. Making some progress towards reconciliation.
Does it seem like infidelity is the theme of almost every other TV show or movie? How do other trying-to-reconcile couples handle sitting side-by-side while yet another television show suddenly turns on an infidelity-related plot-point.
I've been watching "The Glades" on A&E, which is a pretty decent cop show. The recurring sub-plot, however, is the main character's on-again / off-again romance with a nurse who's raising a teenager, who's husband is in prison, and who is contemplating divorce. It's amazing to me how easy it is to tell that the writer(s) have never been the BS. From where I sit now, it's so easy to say that the moral dilemma the cop faces is simple: stay the hell away until the nurse gets a divorce. And yet, before D-Day, it would have seemed morally ambiguous to me.
There's the same sort of moral conflict "is she justified" in the Good Wife. And again, now 2 years past D-Day, I can say that there's no dilemma at all. Either get divorced or don't. If you want an EA / PA with another person, that's fine, but end your marriage first.
I'm not sure I have a point except to note that as my anger has faded and I've grown numb, I've slowly come to realize how many of our culture's stories revolve around infidelity and how little one really understands about the consequences of infidelity until you are wholly and completely betrayed by the one you love most.