Cheating with no restraint
Why do so many instances of cheating occur with no physical restraint at all? I do understand that many marriages go through some times when cheating is a big temptation and that sometimes people, when at a point of weakness, fall into this temptation. But it seems that very often when people cheat they fall into it 100% with absolutely no restraint from the fact that they are in love with their husband or wife. They might even do more things than they do with their husband. And these are times when it is later described as a 'mistake' and the original relationship, while perhaps strained, there is still a lot of love. So if you are still in love and you are going to cheat, why can't you show at least some restraint? Save something for the one you love. There are many opportunities to make the 'mistake' (however ghastly) less serious. To at least make a gesture that acknowledges the one you love. To make it less intimate with the one you are cheating with?
If you let the temptation of a good looking man saying all of the right things overcome you, you can stop at kissing once you realize you are falling into something that is a 'mistake'. If he touches you, you can make sure it doesn't go any further. If you are at the point of having sex, you can stop him before you take it all the way. If you are going to have sex, can't you at least make him wear a condom? If you are having unprotected sex, can't you at least stop him before he 'finishes' inside you? I think you get the idea.
Can anyone relate to this? Why does cheating seemingly very often go all the way to the extreme. Wouldn't non-cheaters who are making a 'mistake' for the first time just fall into the excitement of it but have the sense to at least minimize the intimacy in some way?
What is your experience with this, either as a cheater or betrayed one?