Re: How to get over forbidden love
How much of the "true love" you are feeling is based on your soul being connected through a higher power to this new man versus the rush of endorphines you are experiencing from initiating a relationship with someone new (hint: the hormones don't just affect teenagers - it is a basic physiological response, the primary drive in ALL affairs). How do you really separate the two conflicting reasons you are using to validate your will? There is also no avoiding the fact that if you end your marriage you WILL hurt (probably devastate) your spouse and likely your family too... you chose to make a lifelong commitment, and if you leave it is you who are choosing to dishonor it. I understand about not wanting to live with regret, experiencing all that life has to offer etc, and if your partner had mutual feelings about I could see your point, but you need to see this for what it is, its a thrill that will come at a the largest possible cost, and you can't see it now because your judgement is clouded by lust. If you took all the energy you are willing to devote to this new man and had been putting it into your relationship instead your marriage would be the kind you want to make it (you need to change your view not partners).
Sorry for my one-sided take on this I am the one who was betrayed by my wife's uncontrollable impulses, she too thinks life is all rosy now that she's with OM - she has been mistaking intensity for intimacy, and when that intensity fades she will be forced to re-evaluate her choices, as you will should you follow through on your impulse.