Re: The lying hurts worse than the cheating...
It’s not until trust is gone that you realise what a trust based relationship a marriage is. Wife has gone shopping, has she really? Husband is out playing golf, is he really? Every single minute they are away from us we trust they are doing the right things by us, but are they?
Then we begin to question everything. You love me? Do you really?
And then we start to look back on our marriage and we wonder what was true and authentic, what was real and what was deceits and a bunch of lies, what was unreal. And then we come to the conclusion that we’re never ever going to know what was real and what was lies throughout the whole of our marriage and then we have to come to terms with that.
We come to realise that we’ve been deluded, we’ve believed in things that are not real, so our life hasn’t been real. But they keep on lying and deceiving and we reach a point where we don’t believe a word that comes out of their mouth or a word they write down on paper unless we can independently verify it.
Then one day we wake up to it all and we become truly aware that we’re living with a person who has no credibility or integrity and they just don’t care about lying, it’s just a part of who they are and they’re never going to change. That’s when we decide to leave them as living any type of life is far superior to living a life with a liar.