How would you interpret this message

jnj express · 10-08-2011, 10:21 PM

Everytime, you go soft---thing about all the lying, deception, planning, manipulating, and conniving, she did so she could go to Vegas, and spread her legs even more for her lover

Think about how, these many years, and months, she has basically had 2 husbands, and you getting sloppy seconds, especially in her mind, where everything was geared for him--

--you, your just the POS, husband, who cares about you,---those thoughts alone, should make it very easy for you to just let her slide by---who cares whether she is nice or not---don't spend anytime near her, don't be where you have to see her, or talk to her----and i certainly hope you have moved her out of your bedroom.

Nickitta · 10-08-2011, 11:07 PM

I will definitely try go get more information/evidence before confronting her. If she is innocent and you start accusing her, it could badly backfire on your relationship.

KanDo · 11-12-2011, 08:35 PM

Ok given the tenor of your previous responses to my tale of woes, I'm sure this one will set yu all off so I'll give you the latest developements. As you remember, wife has been served but has the right to stay in my home until end of December. She has essentially no money as my prenup precludes spousal support. Her lame attorney sent a letter requesting $7500/month be sent to our joint account for her use without prejudice (meaning it wouldn't come out of her share!!) my attorney said he can ask for all her wants, we certainly are not going to do that. Now the wife says she has broken all contact with the (current) lover, will stop her work in the other city, and wants to stay married. Says she loves me....

chapparal · 11-12-2011, 08:42 PM

And you told her................. Some here will burn you if you talk reconcilliation but its your life and your call.

chapparal · 11-12-2011, 08:49 PM

So what has been going on the last month?

AbsolutelyFree · 11-12-2011, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by KanDo

Now the wife says she has broken all contact with the (current) lover, will stop her work in the other city, and wants to stay married. Says she loves me....

Nope, no way, don't do it, don't even think about it.

KanDo · 11-12-2011, 11:10 PM

In response, the last month has been OK. she had visited the OM and I have been doing my own thing working on me. We both went to see her daughter who has been having her own troubles. I don't know if I've mentioned this, but the WW has had some other problems. Her driver's license has been suspended ( she says its an error, but I think she accumulated too many points). Anyway, she can't drive and has been limited because she doesn't have any money.

I have not responded to her latest move. I don't believe it and I'm not certain it would make a difference even if I did.

Laba · 11-13-2011, 04:57 AM

I am in disbelieve how low she can go...Basically for security of money she will fake love to you. Good job for having prenup. I am interested to see how this all plays out.. I hope you stay strong and dont let her emotionally blackmail you in thinking it was somehow your fault..
My mother did this to my father, he landed in hospital with heart problems because of this and she did come to visit him - just to ask for more money.... fast forward 26 years after divorce - my mother is most humble person these days, life beated her from all directions. My father is well off, has a very nice lady by his side. That makes me think karma exists - just think already post divorce - you will meet someone who will be worth you and who will respect you the way you deserve...Keep strong!!!!

KanDo · 11-13-2011, 11:41 PM

Yes. I am amazed at how this has all turned out and feeling pretty stupid.

KanDo · 11-14-2011, 04:24 AM

@Brandon,

It might help to actually read the thread before posting

I don't need anymore proof and have already filed and served her! (I would have to be in bed with her and her lover to get any more "proof"!)

turnera · 11-14-2011, 10:02 AM

No reason to feel stupid for trusting people to be who they say they are. That just makes you a good person.

But...now you know, and you are acting accordingly.

chapparal · 11-14-2011, 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by KanDo

Ok given the tenor of your previous responses to my tale of woes, I'm sure this one will set yu all off so I'll give you the latest developements. As you remember, wife has been served but has the right to stay in my home until end of December. She has essentially no money as my prenup precludes spousal support. Her lame attorney sent a letter requesting $7500/month be sent to our joint account for her use without prejudice (meaning it wouldn't come out of her share!!) my attorney said he can ask for all her wants, we certainly are not going to do that. Now the wife says she has broken all contact with the (current) lover, will stop her work in the other city, and wants to stay married. Says she loves me....

What has she offered to do to reconcile? Are you still keeping tabs on her?

CH · 11-14-2011, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by KanDo

Says she loves my money....

Fixed it. She has shown nothing to show that she ever loved you. Just hang in there for another month and it's all over. The next month is probably gonna be hell for you, she's gonna lay on the super sweet, best wife in the world routine and then it's gonna get ugly with her turning into the wicked witch of the west.

Do not let her goad you into any arguments or confrontations, just ignore her and do your own thing.

christinadanderson · 11-14-2011, 09:10 PM

Come flat out and ask your wife. Don't be afraid of what she might say. Just in a calm voice expect her to be honest with you.

Almostrecovered · 11-15-2011, 06:20 AM

her operation "backup plan B" is in full effect