Re: Help! Wife Won't Communicate With Me
I really wish I could suggest something to you to make things better.
I was on the same end as your wife in the very same situation, so I'm sure I can say I legitimately know how it feels. To be honest, it would have been easier for me if my boyfriend had a short, purely physical affair- but to have talked to women online over the span of years really is another matter entirely, because there is so much emotional attachment.
I don't know you, or her, really, but in my head, I think she must still love you, and that's why she's distancing herself. The things she must have felt when she found out was absolutely crushing, if the way I felt was any indication. And also as a result, I found myself trying to distance myself from my boyfriend to lessen to the hurt, but BECAUSE I wanted to get over it.
The divorce papers...I'm very sorry about that. In my situation, I had to convince myself that online conversations wasn't worth leaving him - I hope she can see it. Whether or not they actually meant something, I don't know.
Well, I don't know if I've made any sense, and I think I probably haven't. I'm not in a particularly good frame of mind because of my own troubles, but I want things to work out for you, because I think you do realize you did something wrong, but you are so committed to making things right. I hope she will start to see it and join you in the counseling.