Wife of 10 years kissed (who I thought was) a stranger
The wife and mother of my 3 young children went out at the weekend with her girlfriends like normal as she sometimes does. The next morning she wasn't her normal self, but instead very quiet. I know my wife and I asked if there was anything wrong and did she need to tell my anything, to which said replied "no". Apparently she hadn't eaten much at their meal because she had a dodgy smomach. Last time my wife drank on an empty stomach she became an emotional mess and ruined our daughter's Christening party, to which she deeply regrets to this day.
Anyway, later that evening I asked i she was sure there was nothing wrong, and she confessed that she had kissed a stranger in the nightclub and blurted that she thinks she ruined our marriage. I was just in total shock as I've trusted her 100% I just replied "Oh...OK" and went into the other room and finished watching the movie I had been watching. (I was in total shock) That night my wife sept in the spare room and I hardly slept at all.
The next day shock turned to anger and I told her our marriage was over and I was leaving her for cheating on me. She apologised and admitted to being stupid, but when I asked why she did it she simply replied " he spun me a line and made me feel wanted". She apparently kissed this man behind the backs of her friends, probably using the excuse of having to use the toilet for the absence, but said she was with him for a while, however long that is.
I can only tell you that it's left me totally davastated. Kissing is said to be a romantic intimate thing, and knowing how intimately me wife kisses just tears me apart when I think of her kissing that stranger.
Do I forgive her? or do I leave her for cheating on me? With having 3 beautiful daughter together, live in a lovely mortgage free house with lots of nice things, we have so much together, but I feel I will not be able to trust her again, and if I forgive her she may do it again one day.
In many respects I blame myself because I'm not that touchy feely with her, she likes hugs and kisses) I don't exactly do intimate kissing unlss we're making passionate love, and our sex life is once every 6 weeks, 4 weeks if we're lucky. We've both put this to the children sappy our energy, as well as much job in which I work very long unsociable hours. Guys please help because I have no-one else to talk to because I feel to humilated to talk to my friends or family about this, and I am truly devastated.
Last edited by Rainshaker; 06-22-2011 at 01:22 AM.
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