Long time viewer of this site, male 53, wife 55, we have four children, one being a special needs child that still lives at home with us, other kids are married and out of the house. We have been married for 36 years, wife had an affair five years ago, pretty sure she only slept with the guy one time, went through counseling and have been trying to do my best to make my wife feel special, and show how much I love and need her. Two weeks ago, we were at the hospital waiting for the birth of our first grandson, I asked her if I could use her ipad to check my work email, I am a teacher, so I have the summer off. When I went to log into my gmail account, I saw a strange gmail account name, fancynancy, not even close to my wife's name. When we got home a couple of days later, I told her that I needed to hear her say she loved me, and had she been doing anything that I would not approve off, she went off, and we fought for a week. Things quieted down over the fourth and we fooled around fro the first time in 10 days. I kept checking her ipad, but the account name had been set back to her work email. Today, after doing some searching on her ipad, found her gmail account open, also saw that she was still logged in on her work account, I went in and reset her password on her gmail account, and it allowed my to access the fancy nancy account. I read 477 posts that I found in the account, going all the way back to May 2014, pretty sure that she had another gmail account before her current one. She has met a guy on-line. She started sending naked photos of herself to him, and he sent four to her. They met 2 hours away in April when she had to go to a meeting for a few days, according to the emails, they just talked, kissed and groped a little. The emails were clear, they did not sleep together, but my wife was more than willing. The guy is married with a family, no chance to ever get his name, he is not local, and travels a lot. I have copies of about 30 emails and photos sent they sent to each other in a secure place. Not sure what to do, I do not want a divorce, getting too old to start over, but I can not live with the current situation. I plan on asking her confronting her tomorrow when she gets home from work. She is smart enough to figure out that I hacked into her gmail account and changed the password, she will just open up a new gmail account if I do not say something. Tell me what to do.