I don't know if you are familiar with legal guardianship, but in my state, if a person becomes a court appointment legal guardian over someone, they receive money from the state. And then the state requires a monthly printed budget of what the money was spent for (clothes, food, etc).
That is something that I think should be used for CS. That way there is no question that the money is being spent on the children. If the state has the right to know if its money is being spent right by a legal guardian, then it is only right that the spouse paying CS has the right to know how the CS is being spent. It is for the children after all.
But we all know life isn't fair or right, and we know who mainly gets screwed over in the family courts.
Of course the state would want a print-out... it's THEIR money and THEIR reputation. In family court,
it ain't their money so they don't GAF. Deal is... these laws were put in place many decades ago.
When it was a time when the woman, maybe not even a HS graduate, has babies and stays at
home (see B/W sitcoms). Staying home, raising 3-4 kids, tending house, cooking, small garden,
running the kids.... sorry but that's NOT an easy job. I doubt I could ever do it. My mom was a SAHM
and never went to work FT until after I started junior high. Yeah I was an only child but
I was enough of a he!! raiser to match any three normal kids.
When the H gets frisky with
the much younger secretary and runs off with her, there is the W left to raise a family with zero
job skills. You bet your a$$ I hope she gets as much CS as she can, she will need it. But things aren't
that way anymore. Not by a long shot. Society changes, change the damn laws.
We shouldn't get mad at the ones accepting all the CS, we should get mad at the lawmakers
who are NOT doing a thing about changing the laws. Until it inflicts them, they don't give a damn.
Just like with AIDS 35 years ago... nobody cared until high profile people came down with
it and heterosexuals did as well.