Re: My wife thinks she is in love with a co-worker
Tonight was not a good night. After all of your advice tonight, I once again ignored it all and tried to reason with her that giving this marriage every last chance to work was the only proper solution. She's not having it and during the conversation you could clearly tell she was coming from a place of great anger and vindictiveness. She admitted that she was trying to hurt me by being so open about the affair, hoping to "send me over the edge" and act promptly in anger.
Again, I know you all have really heard enough about this, but I am really trying to do the right thing for my children. To me, it's them first. It really is. This move will devistate them both emotionally and functionally. They will grow up poor kids in a rich town. We are already pretty much on the low end of finances in a financially viable community and cannot afford many things that our childrens peers have, and this is only going to make it way worse.
Tonight it was clear to me that my wife is in a real dark place, not just with me but in her life. I am the cause of this. I let her down. I didnt give this woman the love she deserved, All true. But, she is coming from a real dark place, a vengeful place, an unhealthy place, and a place that is ultimately going to harm my children. I CANNOT SIT BACK AND WATCH THIS HAPPEN AND DO NOTHING. It sucks that I have to cause more chaos in a chaotic situation. That does not generate love and kindness and caring, three things that I lack that I am trying to find in my life. I am absolutely gutted that my plan will not work; trying to nice her back into at least giving the marriage another chance.
Last edited by gridcom; 09-05-2015 at 05:16 PM.