Re: My wife thinks she is in love with a co-worker
Wow, just WOW. I've read your thread and the advice that you are ignoring. Some things don't make sense.
How could you be this huge Azz hole to your wife, correction, aggressive AH, and then, suddenly, realize that you need to be the big fighter, beggar, pleader for the marriage? I mean, you blame yourself and specifically say that it was all your fault and really just bash yourself. IT DOES NOT MAKE ANY SENSE.
azz hols remain azz holes. You can clean them up, but they are still azz holes. They don't change on a dime and suddenly become martyrs. It doesn't happen. Something does not make sense.
As for your wife, give her what she wants. Seriously, give her a divorce. Get the best deal you can for yourself and let her go. Either she will "snap out of it", whatever that means, once she realizes that she is free to go; or she will go and realize that life with someone else is really life with someone else and not all that stolen moments bullcrap. Lastly, it will be great to be away from you and she will enjoy the rest of her life with this guy.
Why you would want to keep her in light of what you told us is beyond me. Why she does not just file on you is confusing. I mean, why say stuff to make you angry when all she has to do is file?