Re: Please give advise-marriage help!!
I agree with moritori. Offer her a divorce. YOU DID NOT CHEAT ON HER! If you did then everyone else in the world has cheated on their SO. You apparently had no physical contact! Do you really think that when your SO masturbates she is thinking of you and only you, or here I like this one. I have been told by many women that they think of nothing while masturbating, "it is just the feeling". Well, I refuse to believe that any animal or person can think of nothing!!! The mind goes always, and if it is not functioning they are brain dead. My wife and daughter constantly comment how they would love certain actors like Johnny Depp, etc etc. Does that mean that they are cheating on me? Or are there other rules for actors?
Maybe you need to ask yourself why you were having this online session going anyway. When you find the answer to that, you may discover that you were missing something from your SO. In that case, do not put either of you through any more mental, physical, and spiritual torture (unless you like that), end the marriage so that both of you can move on to a more progressive and happier life. Your unhappiness also affects hers and your family and friends.
Do not rule out the fact that she herself feels remorse because she may have actually cheated and is just trying to shift the blame? Feeling remorse? I suggest ending the PAIN and SUFFERING, seems like you are getting nowhere! FIVE YEARS??????