Grayson

Wife and I have been making stellar progress towards R after a false start. But being that both of us plus OM work together, it can be a challenge sometimes. She's maintaining NC, but some mornings, like this morning, it's tough to not just pound him into hamburger.

Wife and I walked into the weekly department meeting to hear him whining and moaning about how he goes so long without hearing from the woman he's so deeply in love with, who's in the military and stationed halfway across the country...how he's getting mixed signals from her and is trying to get an answer as to what, exactly, they are...friends? FWB? A couple? Blah blah, wah wah.

Hearing him whine about how in love he's been with her for 4 months made me want to leap across the table, grab him by the throat, and scream, "If you've been so crazy about her for four months, why the f¥<k were you trying to arrange a parking lot rendezvous with my wife THREE months ago?"

Dude, you're a predator. You have no conscience. You have no heart for her to break.

I only wish I had some way to track down Miss Wonderful, so I could fill her in on what kind of scumbag has set his sights on her.
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Craggy456

I feel the same way whenever I run into the OW at the store or around town. It's tough to resist the urge of yanking her leg brace off of her fat arse and beating the snot out of her!

DanF

Keep your eyes and ears open and your mouth closed and you may learn who, where and how about her.
I'd certainly expose him if I got the chance.

joe kidd

You sir are a better man than me. I don't know if I could contain myself. If the om were one of my co workers I would fire their ass. I would make up a reason later.

Homemaker_Numero_Uno

This is where using a real appointment calendar binder with obvious calendar months marked comes in handy. All you have to do is flip back a few months and make a comment about how at least he has more time on his hands now for a hobby or extra work.

Grayson

Unfortunately, joe, I don't have the authority to fire him.

Dan, for better or for worse, this morning was an anomaly. Normally, if he speaks around me (he NEVER speaks TO me), it's an attempt to show everyone how much smarter and better than them he is. (A plan which backfires, without fail.) I have been trying to see if I can get some idea to narrow down how to contact her. As it is, I've gotten his (now ex) wife to divorce him after exposing the PA with my wife last year. I wouldn't hesitate to wipe out this new "love" for him trying to get back into my wife's pants.
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2xloser

NO...
...f***ing
...way.

Seriously impressive, you sir are definitely a better man than me. How do you get any work done?

Forget firing their ass - as far as containing myself, I'd be looking to BEAT their ass. Repeatedly, with everything in the office. No way I could do even once anything remotely close to what you do every day. Wow.

Craggy456

That's why you lay low and listen. If he's such a big talker, he will let some things slip that you may be able to use to your advantage.

Numb-badger

I agree with 2xL.
If that'd been me, I feel that instead of the photocopier spitting out pictures of his backside, it'd be his a-hole spitting out shards of broken glass and photocopier.

It would sting for sure.

You sire are a far better man than me.
But seriously, that's not much of an achievement anyway

joe kidd

Exactly. Or.... better yet I would give him a series of demeaning jobs and make him call me sir.

Grayson

2x, I'm lucky in that I'm only in a position that I HAVE to see him at the Friday meetings. Most days, I don't see him at all. Part of my position is to answer questions for the people in his group. If he has questions, he doesn't ask me. When faced with no other option than to ask me or make something up...he makes something up.

I'd be lying, though, if I said that I don't imagine messing up his vehicle every evening on the way out.
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Numb-badger

An old boss who used to wind me up something chronic once went out to find his car completely covered in bubblewrap and duct-tape.
It took him ages to unwrap it.
I nearly wet myself.
He did. It was raining.

Oh joy of joys.

WhiteRabbit

Grayson I feel your pain of sharing office space with the om/ow. I'm just sad you aren't in the position to get rid of his predatory ass. He should be fired just for having an office affair...but then that would mean we lived in a perfect and just world.
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2xloser

btw I wasn't being snarky when I said you're a better man than me in this regard, I mean it. Getting physical with him wouldn't be smart. Like NB said, doesn't take much to be better here - but you certainly are. I seriously don't know how you do it.

jnj express

Best thing you could do to him---is to totally, and completely ignore him, like he doesn't exist----he is obviously a talker, cuz he can't really do, ---so he talks, He talks to get the attention, ignoring him totally hurts him, and puts him down. (that is except for seducing married women)-----as you ignore him, keep trying to find out about his GF---he seems to like to blab, so it will slip out one day---actually if you are still in contact with his XW---and she lives at his old address, maybe the new GF, will send some mail to that address