Yes it went all the way. My dad is out of the house. My wife feels horrible and says she will never forgive herself. I know I should have stopped them hanging out all the time and I should have listened to her when she said he needed to go. I just couldn't make myself believe that this was actually happening.
Yes you should have stopped it ,and she did ask you to. At the same time I am not surprised you couldn't believe it was happening.
It is almost unbelievable.
This however does not excuse your wife choosing to do it. It is good she feels bad. This is a good start.
As far as I know my father doesn't have any mental problems. And no there were no drugs involved.
No OTHER drugs involved and pursuing your sons wife is not the sign of a stable mind. Sorry.
She says it was the only time they had intercourse, but that they had kissed before when they were drunk. She also said that she had cuddled with him in bed a few times also.
I think that it would be hard to do it twice for almost anyone.
She was a born again Christian when I met her. That obviously fizzled away... We have talked about trying to make our marriage work and she says the only way to do that is with God in our lives. I am going to propose to her that I will try going to church with her every Sunday if she goes to AA.
I would also suggest professional help. IC for her. IC for you and MC for both of you. This is a big one.
It is not enough to sweep this under the rug. If she wants to attend church then she should.
Other things to note:
1.she was molested by her older brother when she was a pre-teen.
2. Her single dad who "raised her" was an alcoholic and always at the bar. My wife raised herself and her little sister from the age of 8.
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You can't deal with this on your own Dirt. You are too close and hurt to be of any use.
PLEASE get some professorial help for you and your wife.
I have to agree that your Father has to deal with it himself. You really can't have him in your life after this.