are they in the beginning of EA?
Hi everyone. I need some help/advice before I have a breakdown. I will make this as short as I can while trying to fit in all the details. My H and I are "adventurous". We talked about threesomes previously, out of curiosity, and ended up having one several times w/ a great friend of ours. Health issues w/ her husband have ended our involvement w/ her, though she is still a friend. I was amazed @ how much closer H and I were, and loved the new emotional bond. We decided to find another "friend". Hubby met a woman, and right off the bat I had issues. She stayed @ our house almost constantly for a while, which quickly got old. She even worked @ my husband's business to help pay for the cost of her staying w/ us. After a few weeks of her being around, I began to have weird feelings, and was sure something was going on. Between work and then @ home, they were together more than he and I. I took my kids to a local amusement park for an overnight, and sure of my feelings, I planted 2 voice recorders. I was sorry I did. Though they didn't have sex, she did kiss him, and they had very intimate conversations. From my interpretation, she seemed to be developing feelings for him. H and I talked about all of this, and he very sincerely doesn't believe she is. I asked her what this or that comment meant, and she said she was referring to parts of her life, etc. I didn't and don't believe her. I have since got over that indiscretion, and have called off any future "activity", though I have attempted to be friends w/ her. She told both of us she really likes us as friends and wishes to stay friends w/ both of us, hang out, etc. I don't make friends easy as I'm always skeptical of people, so I tried to give it a shot. Last week we were sitting around the fire, having a few beers, relaxing. She got very drunk, and after hubby and I went to bed, she got pissed and left, walking down a very busy road. I was also drunk and couldn't drive, so to ensure she didn't get killed, hubby went to find her and drive her to her familys house. Now, she calls or texts him everyday, several times a day. The next day, nothing. I jokingly asked him what he said to make her mad. He said he told her that getting mad and leaving was BS, and it wouldn't be tolerated, and asked her what made her mad. She told him, and I quote, "She gets to have you every night". Since this comment was made, I haven't attempted to talk to her if she comes over, and last night told H I didn't want her over anymore. I feel she has feelings for him, was only pretending to be my friend to get close to him. I told him I didn't like how much time they spend together, or how she always texts or calls HIM and never me. He said she most definitely has no feelings for him, she's never said she does, and I'm being paranoid. We are now fighting because I threw a fit and told him to end the "friendship", that I wasn't going to allow the opportunity for any possible feelings to develop further. Was I being paranoid? Am I just being jealous? She acts very different when he's around, like she's trying to attract his attention. Wears very short shorts, skin tight clothes, etc. She is a very attractive woman, and I know that the sexual and physical attraction is already there. Am I wrong to demand her gone forever Please help me to know if I am justified. And please try not to judge me. I will answer any questions if there are any. This whole situation may lead to divorce if he pushes the issue of maintaining a friendship with her. I will not tolerate it @ this point. Thank you all so much!
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