A few days ago, I was mulling over in my head the notion that, despite my wife & I making great strides since our real R began, it's difficult sometimes to put her cheating behind me...to put it fully out of my mind. True, some of that must be chalked up to both of us and her PA partner all working in the same place. Still, some of it must be on me, even if subconsciously.
And then my mind made what may seem to be an odd connection - Star Trek. Specifically, Star Trek: Deep Space Nine. Even more specifically, the pilot episode, in which Commander Benjamin Sisko must try to explain the concept of linear existence to a group of beings who simultaneously experience all moments of time. In so doing, his memories and attempts to explain linear existence all seem to dovetail back to the point several years before when his wife died. Confused by the apparent contradiction, the beings are unable to understand why, if humanity experiences linear existence, Sisko continues to "exist" in the moment of Jennifer's death.
And that got me to wondering...after we've been cheated on, do we tend to "exist there?" Does that moment inform all moments that come after? I realize that, ultimately, the answer as to whether or not we continue to "exist there" differs from person to person...some have the ability to move on in their linear existence, while others remain in that moment. Just thought it made for an interesting idea as applied to our common experience.
And, for those interested, a link to the scene in question. (Be aware, it's about 9 minutes long...lol.)
DS9 - Where do we exist? - YouTube
And then my mind made what may seem to be an odd connection - Star Trek. Specifically, Star Trek: Deep Space Nine. Even more specifically, the pilot episode, in which Commander Benjamin Sisko must try to explain the concept of linear existence to a group of beings who simultaneously experience all moments of time. In so doing, his memories and attempts to explain linear existence all seem to dovetail back to the point several years before when his wife died. Confused by the apparent contradiction, the beings are unable to understand why, if humanity experiences linear existence, Sisko continues to "exist" in the moment of Jennifer's death.
And that got me to wondering...after we've been cheated on, do we tend to "exist there?" Does that moment inform all moments that come after? I realize that, ultimately, the answer as to whether or not we continue to "exist there" differs from person to person...some have the ability to move on in their linear existence, while others remain in that moment. Just thought it made for an interesting idea as applied to our common experience.
And, for those interested, a link to the scene in question. (Be aware, it's about 9 minutes long...lol.)
DS9 - Where do we exist? - YouTube