You have enough to out him to his wife and if you know who employs him. He is likely to be using company time to conduct the affair , and no doubt company assets to send mails and/or a company paid hotel room.
Out him to his wife, they are all unhappily married , supposedly, as is your wife according to her. Do not tell your wife, expose and wait , if she changes her behaviour she is still I'm contact. Be decisive and act fast.
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WHOA! Careful with this! Involving his wife may be dangerous to her and to you! You do not know who you are dealing with! And I would be careful exposing his and her extra marital affair to co-workers. If he loses his job and wife he may become violent.
I have been EXACTLY where you are 7 years ago. I purchased tracking software to see what my husband was doing in the computer. I was devastated but I realized this: he wanted out of our marriage. And I decided that fighting for something that was dead was a waste of time. He didn't love me anymore. Why would I fight to stay in a marriage with someone who didn't love me? As much as it hurt, I had to let him go, but I never made a scene, didn't contact his job or the new woman.
Do not cause drama by contacting OM or Mrs. OM. Your problem is with your wife. And she is the only person you need to contact. Here is my advice on what to do with her:
1) When you talk to her, only ask questions and only relay facts.
2) Do not talk about your feelings. You need to remain unemotional. You can't yell or show weakness.
3) Control the conversation and ask tell her what you want.
Fidelity or she needs to pack up and leave.
4) Be calm and matter of fact. No tears, no whining, no begging. She made a choice to cheat. It is up to you to guide the final conversation.
Sweetie, she has disrespected you. I don't believe she loves you enough to salvage this relationship. You will never be able to trust her again, will you? If you can, is she the woman you really want to cuddle with after she has cuddled with another man in your house?
I'm sorry you are experiencing this pain. I know how you feel and you deserve someone you can trust and laugh with. Grow some sack and take control of the conversation that I know you don't want to have. You can do it!