WW use of these forums

bsnone · 08-04-2011, 01:32 PM

I'm curious, as I've recently (yesterday) found these forums and they have opened my eyes to so many things, I wonder what experiences members have with their cheating spouse reading these forums? Did it help them see their ways? Was it helpful at all? Did it improve recovery?

I'm really tempted to ask my WW to read these pages, to maybe maybe see what is really going on.

The more I look at this like an addiction, the more it makes sense to me. I myself am a recovering compulsive gambler (3 years, 2 days) and I see SO many of my old patterns in her behavior through the affair.

Anyway, your help is appreciated.

it-guy · 08-04-2011, 01:37 PM

I used to share certain posts and threads with my WW. She now has an account and browses regurally. We have enough respect for one another....and other board members that we do not argue with one another in threads.

We also would not post something that we would not want each other seeing.

This has not been a bad thing. And I think she got to see that im not crazy be seeing everyone going through the same things.
Posted via Mobile Device

WhiteRabbit · 08-04-2011, 01:38 PM

Does nothing other than give them better and more unique ways to get away with hiding their addiction...new responses...new lies to tell.

this place is the freaking zen garden of ideas for "how to get away with it for a long time. and what NOT to do."

sorry...but it's true. If anyone wanted to know how to cheat and not get caught all they'd have to do is read the stories here...like studying to be a cop so you can break the law and not get arrested.

Eli-Zor · 08-04-2011, 01:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WhiteRabbit

Does nothing other than give them better and more unique ways to get away with hiding their addiction...new responses...new lies to tell.

this place is the freaking zen garden of ideas for "how to get away with it for a long time. and what NOT to do."

sorry...but it's true. If anyone wanted to know how to cheat and not get caught all they'd have to do is read the stories here...like studying to be a cop so you can break the law and not get arrested.

Agree unless they have earned the Former in FWW, waywards get more info from the affair sites on how to deceive than here.
Posted via Mobile Device

it-guy · 08-04-2011, 01:46 PM

Interesting thoughts.... however it does not bother me. If my wife decides to cheat again im doomed and can do nothing to stop it. Does not matter how she does it. So it does not matter to me.

In other words.....she's going to cheat....or not cheat. Reading this forum is not going to change that.
Posted via Mobile Device

jayde · 08-04-2011, 01:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by it-guy

I This has not been a bad thing. And I think she got to see that im not crazy be seeing everyone going through the same things.
Posted via Mobile Device

All it took was for her to come here to see that you're not crazy??? I'm signing my wife up today!

the guy · 08-04-2011, 01:48 PM

I share with WW, she can take it or leave it, just like anything with her, when its new it interesting, when its old its not. Especially when its 45 yrs old.....just kiding babe ;-)

it-guy · 08-04-2011, 01:59 PM

Jayde.....lol. I think she just assumes we are all crazy.

Just kidding.. I really think it has helped her understand more about how I feel and why I feel that way. She also discovered some of the other forums here and enjoys look at them. She actually makes most of her posts on the sex in marrige forum. That place is interesting. And we all know how the hysterical bonding stuff is a boost for the sex life. She may as well learn some new tricks...lol
Posted via Mobile Device

sigma1299 · 08-04-2011, 02:03 PM

As a wayward I'll say that this forum and the people on it have helped me tremendously. My wife and I have kind of done it backwards as she just found and joined this site.

walkingwounded · 08-04-2011, 02:04 PM

My H has broswed the forums, including this one. He hates it. He thinks it "gives me ideas", plants seeds of doubt in my head and is destructive to my state of mind. He is very against me posting.

the guy · 08-04-2011, 02:17 PM

W- my WW has made that same remark, but she also thinks I'll screw up someones marriage with all that "manning up" I get into.

sexuallyfustrated · 08-04-2011, 06:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by walkingwounded

My H has broswed the forums, including this one. He hates it. He thinks it "gives me ideas", plants seeds of doubt in my head and is destructive to my state of mind. He is very against me posting.

Sounds like my husband. He thinks it cast doubt when in reality his actions are casting them. I guess I am learning to much here. To close for comfort ya know what I mean. Has never reas anything not to my knowledge. I have read a few post to him but nohing has some of it.

pidge70 · 08-04-2011, 06:57 PM

My SO and I are both members. We have not posted on the other's threads.
Posted via Mobile Device

ItHappenedToMe · 08-11-2011, 07:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WhiteRabbit

Does nothing other than give them better and more unique ways to get away with hiding their addiction...new responses...new lies to tell.

this place is the freaking zen garden of ideas for "how to get away with it for a long time. and what NOT to do."

sorry...but it's true. If anyone wanted to know how to cheat and not get caught all they'd have to do is read the stories here...like studying to be a cop so you can break the law and not get arrested.

I disagree completely. If anything, it showed me the opposite - how easy it is to track the DS.

And I'm learning alot about how it affects the LS.

I guess I need a F before my initials.

seductive · 08-12-2011, 12:29 PM

hey..everyone, I was just following this forum for last few days,today i got registered. What i can tell you is I am a WW wife, and i see how it affect you guys. I thought he dont care at all...now I see all do cares!!!