Wife had one night stand and got pregnant while I was deployed to Iraq.

MrQuatto · 08-10-2011, 03:24 PM

Montana, as a fellow veteran, there is one thing I can recommend for you that you have at your fingertips. The armed services provides a wide variety of assistance for those deployed. Counselors, religious leaders, etc. Some of them are the best in the country and there to help you. There is no shame what so ever in seeking them out. It is a resource for you there, now. Use it and use it well. There is a great possibility you can work through alot of this while there and be completely clear and level headed when you return for the true sit down.

I used these services when I was in and they really DID help, not only that but they were genuinely compassionate and concerned for my well being. Please consider these resources that are there for you.

Other than that, while there is outstanding recommendations on here from all of us, only you know your true self. Follow your gut so to say and do what you feel is truly right for you, and you alone.

Q~

montana16 · 08-10-2011, 06:20 PM

Well everyone, me and the wife have decided that we have done all we can, with being this far apart and whatnot, and it looks like we're gonna be ok. i told her that I can't make any real decisions until i get home in a few more weeks and she understands. I really do thank everyone on here for all the help they have given. I guess its time to do the military's most worthless job, hurry up and wait.

8yearscheating · 08-10-2011, 06:26 PM

Remember Montana - you can always contact me directly if you need to! I'm a strong proponent of reconciling and have done tons of research to educate myself. So far, I'm successful and as long as my wife doesn't decide to go back - we will stay together!

stepfordwife · 07-18-2012, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by montana16

I've been with my wife for almost 7 years now. I'm actually still in Iraq and am on my way home soon. Like the title says, my wife had a one night stand and ended up pregnant. She says that she was overwhelmed with depression about me being gone, got drunk and made a mistake. It's been 6 days now since she told me through Skype. I want to work everything out and get our happy marriage back. She is devastated by what she has done and i can tell she hurts knowing how much she has hurt me. I'd like some advice on how to get the image of my wife sleeping with another man out of my head. Any advice or comment about this thread is appreciated.

If you married ME instead, Id have been faithful to you

Good luck to you sir. Best wishes.