I'm a man and I think she got dumped too.
Who cries over losing a contract in business? Especially since she had lost other contracts before; did she cried all those times too?
Shamwow, you are being played (and it'll gnawed away at you down the road).
Of course she wasn't crying over a contract...she just didn't know what to say last night so she came up with something that was a bummer to blame it on for the time being.
Well aware that her tears most likely have nothing to do with me. But without getting it from her I can't be sure. I can only assume the worst, and plan for it. He may have banged someone else or told her "Thanks for the week, but" he didn't want to see her again. Or, she may have told him that she had to stop it...and he may have freaked out on her, etc. Or, she may have just stepped out of the fog for a moment and realized how much she has effed up her life and mine, and has no idea what she wants now and is freaking out.
[please feel free to comment on what I've laid out below, as I could use the input pretty quick]
Either way, when she comes home today I'll be prepared to sit her down stat. If she jumps in and starts spilling right away, I'll let her talk. If she doesn't, I'll tell her I know she's been cheating, and that I was not going to be here when she got back from Vegas, that I'd seen an attorney, and that papers were being drawn up as we speak. I'll tell her that I don't know what difference it will make, but if she doesn't tell me everything - from the beginning - and make it the truth, I'm leaving. I'll make it clear to not tell me just the truth she thinks I may already know, because I know plenty, and if she lies or denies what I already know to be true, the conversation will be over, and I'll be leaving and she can expect papers promptly.
Then we'll see what she says.
I won't be giving her a hug when she starts crying (or when she gets home for that matter), I won't be sitting next to her on the couch trying to comfort her as she talks. Rarely if ever call her by her first name, have called her "babe" for so many years it's ingrained. I will call her by her first name only. I plan to be standing, and several feet from her. Will try not to show any emotion whatsoever, and will try to project that I'm only there because she came home early and I haven't have a chance to move out yet.
If she stonewalls me or lies, I will just put up my hand and walk away, and say I'll be leaving now, good luck with everything, and don't call me.
The question is - IF she comes clean and I'm satisfied that she has laid it all out on the table (sure I won't get it all...but where's the line?)...do I go stay somewhere else anyway? Guess it depends on the things she tells me. Obviously, hearing about PA from her mouth will be hard, and I may just want to tell her "Thanks for telling your side. But I can't stand to be in the same room with you right now, I'm going to stay somewhere else." Or I could ask her to go stay somewhere else ("For how long?" "I don't know, I'll let you know"). Or is there ANY scenario where anyone thinks I should stay in the house with her tonight after the confrontation (she could have the couch)? What would most people need to hear and receive from a WS to justify not going nuclear?
(or should I not even leave that option open in my mind right now?)