Originally Posted by Shamwow

She just texted me:

"Any money come through? I decided to go to Vegas today. Cancelled the ticket home, but money isn't credited back yet. I need some play monies. I'll be home tues."


Guess it's time to put dark status into action. Let him pay for her "play monies". This is gonna be weird guys.

Originally Posted by Shamwow

Going to buy boxes and packing supplies now.

Originally Posted by morituri

SW,

You may want to consider asking the moderator to move this thread over to the 'Coping with Infidelity' forum to get more support and feedback.

Originally Posted by Shamwow

Thanks Morituri. How do I do that/Who is the Moderator? (new to the forum thing)

Originally Posted by Shamwow

She just texted me:

"Any money come through? I decided to go to Vegas today. Cancelled the ticket home, but money isn't credited back yet. I need some play monies. I'll be home tues."


Guess it's time to put dark status into action. Let him pay for her "play monies". This is gonna be weird guys.

Originally Posted by Shamwow

And let the "call shamwow a p***y" comments commence for not telling her to go f**k herself and die. Will not apologize for calling to hear what she had to say, and not stomping my proverbial foot on her face. That will come when she comes home and admits this s**t to me to my face. My spine is just fine.

Originally Posted by ManDup

All kinds of people who don't know you and don't know her are going to go all internet tough guy on you. Forget them, what you did shook her, because you weren't whiny or begging. You set boundaries and let her make the wrong choices. That's a much better way to handle it; the others are just mad because you did better than most guys would have. There's no way they can tell from the text you write here what tone you took, etc. Sounds like you're doing fine, but there's a long hard road ahead.

Remember not to cave quickly into reconciliation if that's what you want. She has some dues to pay, and it will take time to rebuild trust, etc. Remember too that it's not your job to be captain save-a-ho. It's her job to earn mercy and forgiveness and trust at this point, if you even want that. But you know that.

Originally Posted by Shamwow

Either way, when she comes home today I'll be prepared to sit her down stat. If she jumps in and starts spilling right away, I'll let her talk. If she doesn't, I'll tell her I know she's been cheating, and that I was not going to be here when she got back from Vegas, that I'd seen an attorney, and that papers were being drawn up as we speak. I'll tell her that I don't know what difference it will make, but if she doesn't tell me everything - from the beginning - and make it the truth, I'm leaving. I'll make it clear to not tell me just the truth she thinks I may already know, because I know plenty, and if she lies or denies what I already know to be true, the conversation will be over, and I'll be leaving and she can expect papers promptly.

Then we'll see what she says.

I won't be giving her a hug when she starts crying (or when she gets home for that matter), I won't be sitting next to her on the couch trying to comfort her as she talks. Rarely if ever call her by her first name, have called her "babe" for so many years it's ingrained. I will call her by her first name only. I plan to be standing, and several feet from her. Will try not to show any emotion whatsoever, and will try to project that I'm only there because she came home early and I haven't have a chance to move out yet.

If she stonewalls me or lies, I will just put up my hand and walk away, and say I'll be leaving now, good luck with everything, and don't call me.