Originally Posted by Geoffrey Marsh View Post
Lets face it...a job is just that..a job...not worth losing your marriage over it.
I agree with you that a job is just a job. The problem is that my husband is a partner at his job. He is the boss. We have invested a good portion of our savings for him to have this position. And he has signed a contract. We relocated for this job, and since I have had to stay home with our daughter I haven't been working. I wish that he could change jobs easily and make this part of the problem go away. He has been talking to his boss about the possibility of him relocating again, back to where we moved from (hoping and praying).
I had mentioned the idea of him getting rid of her, but I understand the possible issues surrounding that. Especially considering he was the one pursuing her. Maybe deep down my intentions of talking to her are trying to guilt her into quitting. I wouldn't hold my breath for that one though.
I spent some time after my daughter went to sleep last night writing down my thoughts. Venting on paper the anger that is relentlessly building inside. I have used this outlet for my saddness since I was a kid.
When my husband got home last night, I asked him if he talked to the OW and made it clear that the relationship is to be strictly business. According to him, she completely understood and agreed. I believe this because all of her recent communication to him has been evidence that despite her feelings, she feels bad and thinks its best for him to focus on his marriage. He said it was an extremely akward conversation, since most of their talk has been done via text and fb. I'm sure having to say things face to face was different.
Again, I vented how I had been feeling. How difficult things are for me. He says he understands that it is going to take time, and he doesn't want me to think that he is becoming impatient with me. He is willing to listen to my frustrations, even if I repeat myself (which is often). He says he is deleting her from his friends on facebook, and he will prove to me that he means what he is saying.
I told him that I still feel like I need to talk to her. He is not in favor of it, but he says if it is something I need to do then he understands. I think he is trying to save the OW from an akward conversation, not necessarily hiding anything.
I am feeling slightly better today, but I know that I have a long road ahead of me. I have been trying to block these thoughts by praying for strength. Luckily, my church has a big 4 day event this week. I need it!