She is already out of the house (4 on 4 off) so the reality is starting to sink in , but have you exposed the A? Espeacially to OMW?
Get the divorce papers drawn up, keep the pressure on. Remember she now has more time with OM 4 days out of the week, start exposing.
I appreciate everyones input. I have read and re-read everythingseveral times. As far as pressure, it was applied this morning. Called her up and asked her if she thought about what I had said Monday night before I walked out of house about thinking about if she wants to work on our marriage. Her normal response of I don't know if i do or dont. I then asked her again about if she was contacting OM. She finally confessed that she is a couple texts a day. I then informed her that I had report that shows her desciption of a couple as 600 times. I told her that all contact with OM is to be over, she needs to go to counseling with me and all email, facebook and cell phone codes need to be given to me to show no contact. Her reply was you are blackmailing me. So I replied no, it is your choice, but if you don't do these things than I am going to file for divorce. Then conversation turned to money and how we cant afford an attorney. I will have no money for house, gas,etc etc etc. I then replied "I don't know what to tell you". I am not going to go on the way we are. I will not live in an open marriage. She has 3 days to figure it out.
Well played sir.
You got out of that blackmail corner very well.
So in three days what is the plan?
The divorce goes through, she moves out for good, the kids stay with you?
What about exposure to OM side and your W side?
You can actually go on line---print out the divorce packet for free---file it, serve it---for the filing fee, get someone to serve her---and if it gets to be a problem, then get an atty---very little money spent at all
If you want to know your state's divorce code's---simply go on line, go to google, type in state (your state) family codes---every single law is there, and an atty, can do no more for you, than you can do for yourself----if you take some time, and look at the codes, you will find some very, very interesting info.
Plan in 3 days as of right now is unknown. I told her that I will file. I do have some paperwork at home that I plan on filling out and leave out for her to see before I do my 3 days starting on Monday. I am very firm in my mind right now, that is what I am going to do. Didn't know a human could experience so many feelings at the same timee. (Happy, sad, angry, scared, relieved)
As for the OMW, can not get name. Chicken **** won't answer his phone, and no voice mail.
As for the kids, my two stepdaughters, I have no say in what she does with them. My son, I am not sure what to do about. She is a good mother to them all excpet for the fact that she is putting their lives as they know it at serious risk. I also told her that she needs to tell them why things are the way they are. She is to worried about her image, so will not. I did convince her to talkl to a human services person about it. They told her that the 17 year old would be able to handle it, but the 12 year old they wouldn't advise it. I have a feeling that if she doesn't, they are going end up hating her in the future. And that is sad. Wish she would just fess up to it and try to fix things with her daughters.
Plan in 3 days as of right now is unknown. I told her that I will file. I do have some paperwork at home that I plan on filling out and leave out for her to see before I do my 3 days starting on Monday. I am very firm in my mind right now, that is what I am going to do. Didn't know a human could experience so many feelings at the same timee. (Happy, sad, angry, scared, relieved)
As for the OMW, can not get name. Chicken **** won't answer his phone, and no voice mail.
Google phone number look up . It may not be free but not expensive.
I spent some dough on my own investigation into my WW, it worth it and don't be discouraged by some dead ends.
The thing is to get what you need to take the next step for your sitch.....
Took off my wedding ring 5 days ago. Doesn't feel like I am marriade any more. Saw wife for the first time in 5 days last night when we switched days away from houde. Don't know if she noticed or if kids have noticed. Am I wrong for takiing it off?
Thanks guy. It just isn't the same when I see her. I am starting to lose feelings towards her. Never thought I would get to that point, but can only take so much negative comments about trying to save our family.
Well then its time to show her whats shes going to lose, good luke with the 180. I have a feeling that with the way you are currently feeling it should be easy for you.
The thing that will throw you a curve ball, is when your wife notices the real possiblity of loosing you she will get you swinging around again with another emotion, hence the rolloercoaster. Be prepared!
I am ready for it. I just try to remind myself " I am not a doormat anymore. I am not the only one at fault with problems that led up to OM." Thanks for the advice the guy
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