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Old 09-03-2011, 07:04 PM   #61 (permalink)
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How wacked can she get. We had a conversation with our 17 year old daughter about never going to be allowed to spend the night at her boyfriends house. This was about 10 months ago. My wife and I both were in agreement that this would never happen. Fast forward to today. Step daughters boyfriend supprises her with a trip home from college. My step daughter asks me "Can I spend the night at his house" in which I reply NO. I then say call your mom and she what she says, noing we talked about this and she would reply no. Boy was I wrong. I then send my wife a text saying WTF are you serious. Replies back, she won't see him until November and his parents are going to be home. Are you serious. Really pissed right now.
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Old 09-03-2011, 07:07 PM   #62 (permalink)
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She just sent me a text asking me to accept something called LIFE360. It is a mobile phone tracker. Like at this point in our situation, I really care where she is. Our maybe she thinks I am cheating on her. Sorry, will never stoop that low with anyone I am involved with.
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Old 09-03-2011, 08:15 PM   #63 (permalink)
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She just sent me a text asking me to accept something called LIFE360. It is a mobile phone tracker. Like at this point in our situation, I really care where she is. Our maybe she thinks I am cheating on her. Sorry, will never stoop that low with anyone I am involved with.
Looks like an app for your phone to track your family members including her I assume. Didn't see that coming . Of course it tracks the phone so I guess a person could just leave it behind and go somewhere else. Is this a piece offering? Negotiate for his name if comes to that.

Or maybe she wants to keep track of you so you won't be sneaking up on her.
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Old 09-03-2011, 08:21 PM   #64 (permalink)
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chap, That is a very interesting spin. Track the tracker!!!!!
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chap, That is a very interesting spin. Track the tracker!!!!!
never thought of that. maybe i should accept and then slip in her car before she leaves next time
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Old 09-03-2011, 08:28 PM   #66 (permalink)
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The reality of it all, at least in my case, my WW was and is still worried about me having a revenge affair. I hear this is typical for waywards.
I believe the same goes for Mrs.hardtime.

Its seem cheater think if there doing it then there spouse will to, how wrong they are....at least in my case!
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Old 09-03-2011, 08:38 PM   #67 (permalink)
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The reality of it all, at least in my case, my WW was and is still worried about me having a revenge affair. I hear this is typical for waywards.
I believe the same goes for Mrs.hardtime.

Its seem cheater think if there doing it then there spouse will to, how wrong they are....at least in my case!
Well I can say from experience that revenge affairs just cause more trouble.
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Old 09-03-2011, 08:41 PM   #68 (permalink)
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I have heard that time and time again here at TAM, man I would love to but I know better thanks to folks like you.

Besides the added trouble, the guilt alone is not worth it.
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Old 09-03-2011, 08:46 PM   #69 (permalink)
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I have heard that time and time again here at TAM, man I would love to but I know better thanks to folks like you.

Besides the added trouble, the guilt alone is not worth it.
I hate myself for it. I was weak and betrayed everything I held to be true in this world. People say well she started it , but I should have been above that crap.
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Old 09-03-2011, 08:48 PM   #70 (permalink)
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I agree with the guy

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Old 09-04-2011, 09:17 AM   #71 (permalink)
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Day 6 of seperation. Her 2nd day. No calls from her to tell kids goodnight. I had to call 2 times a day to talk to them. But she says that her kids are #1. Looks like it to me. 2 1/2 year old asked this morning, where's mommy?" Breaks my heart that he doesn't know why mom and dad are not home together when he goes to bed and wakes up.
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Old 09-04-2011, 09:24 AM   #72 (permalink)
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Shaggy's right. She's still in the affair. She's playing you real good.

Shock treatment as suggested above is needed.

OM or You and then react with full might. Blow this elusion, her fantasy right out of the water. It's the only way. The more you allow the affair to go on the worse it will be.

Read "Let em go"
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Old 09-04-2011, 09:33 AM   #73 (permalink)
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Hardtime, you unfortunately know why she didn't call. It's the OM. Her moving out has only enabled her to more easily carry it on.

Are you going to stay string and get the attorney going next week? if you back down at this point she will know you won't have the spine to see the battle through.

It's time to make her continuing affair very unhappy.

Hire a PI to find the OM, now that she is free to see him the PI should be able to find the two of them together and find out who the OM is.
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Old 09-04-2011, 09:36 AM   #74 (permalink)
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Get as much evidence as you can. Her and the OM. Keep a journal too.
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Old 09-04-2011, 01:11 PM   #75 (permalink)
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I am going to get papers on Tuesday. Will fill them out, make a copy. Should I leave a copy out where she can find it or not?
At this point, I don't no if I even care about OM. Still love my wife, but losing feelings rapidly. I will try to find out who he is though.
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