Re: Why go for a burger when you have steak at home?
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Originally Posted by Saffron
True, looks don't hold a relationship, but I think everyone here realizes that cheating isn't always about getting a piece of A. It's about the fantasy, ego trip, and/or emotional high one gets while in an affair. So, the AP looks more appealing because they're new and can present their best side. There's no bickering over bills, children, and who does more around the house.
Plus, affairs are usually built over secret meetings and brief encounters. If you add up the total number of hours my H spent with the OW, it'd be less than 40 hours. Even then he saw glimpses of her yucky side. She'd yell "f-you" at him if he mentioned me, talked about how she loves to party with the girls past bar time (she's married), and was obviously lacking in character for this was her 3rd affair. However, as long as she gave my H an ego boost, he could ignore her less desirable traits, because he didn't plan on their relationship being permanent.
Now, if my H had chosen someone hotter, nicer, and more of his intellectual equal than the OW.... I'm sure it would've been a lot harder for him to end the affair, if he would've chosen to end it at all.
True. When I cheated, there was no sex. Not even when I left my daughter's father. The OM and I kissed and made out but I was so damaged by my BF, the OM and I decided we didn't need sex...sounds weird but emotionally, we were completely connected...it was amazing.
Re: Why go for a burger when you have steak at home?
I'm no steak. That might be one of the reasons I am having trouble getting out of the really dark parts of this. What he has done to me has made me hate myself so much more than I thought I ever could.
I am a pretty woman, I have exotic features and a Scandinavian uniqueness in the way I look. I am also 5'4" and chubby *shudder*. My physical faults never stopped me in my tracks. I always felt sexy and beautiful - until now.
The OW tall, long dark hair, dark eyes and thin. Physically she was everything I am not. I wouldn't say she is super hot by any stretch of the imagination but from where I am sitting, she was/is way hotter than me.
I wish I felt like steak but I am feeling more like the brown bag lunch.
Re: Why go for a burger when you have steak at home?
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Originally Posted by terrified
I'm no steak. That might be one of the reasons I am having trouble getting out of the really dark parts of this. What he has done to me has made me hate myself so much more than I thought I ever could.
I am a pretty woman, I have exotic features and a Scandinavian uniqueness in the way I look. I am also 5'4" and chubby *shudder*. My physical faults never stopped me in my tracks. I always felt sexy and beautiful - until now.
The OW tall, long dark hair, dark eyes and thin. Physically she was everything I am not. I wouldn't say she is super hot by any stretch of the imagination but from where I am sitting, she was/is way hotter than me.
I wish I felt like steak but I am feeling more like the brown bag lunch.
You didn't break your wedding vows, lie/cheat/wreck a home. You didn't help a married man to betray his wife and family. You didn't sit in the background carefully plotting your next move and hoping that at some point, you will no longer be second best, accepting the crumbs.
No, you maintained your promises, respect and dignity.
You're the steak. She isn't even burger meat. More like Spam.
Re: Why go for a burger when you have steak at home?
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Originally Posted by Jellybeans
It's funny Paul Newman is the one who said that about the burger/steak since he left his wife for his OW.
Guess they were the small percentages of affairs that turn into marriages.
Sad for his ex-wife to see them thrive for so many years and praised for their long lasting marriage. Guess she got to have the whole world hear that the OW was the steak and she was the burger.
Re: Why go for a burger when you have steak at home?
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Originally Posted by Jellybeans
Yeah it reminds me of Aniston/Jolie/Pitt.
BLARG! Don't get me started on that one. Being left by your spouse would be hard enough, but then to see them with their AP all over the headlines happy and content would be like rubbing salt into a wound. Ouch!
Re: Why go for a burger when you have steak at home?
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Originally Posted by terrified
I wish I felt like steak but I am feeling more like the brown bag lunch.
There was a fun thread not long ago where several of the female posters were listing qualities they like in a man. One of the 4 or 5 was "faithful". That alone makes you more of a steak than the OW. Looks are only skin deep. It's what is inside that is the most important. So what if she is skinnier.
How about this, I give you two options for lunch. One is a well-cured, perfectly seasoned, perfectly cooked filet mignon in a brown bag. The other is a dead possum I picked up on the side of the road that had been there for 3 days. It is wrapped in the most fancy of wrappings.
Re: Why go for a burger when you have steak at home?
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Originally Posted by Almostrecovered
the sad irony of my wife's OM is that he was just like me, had the same physical build, same sarcastic humor, same age, same balding spot, etc
the big difference was that I wasn't looking to cheat on my pregnant wife like OM did
guess that makes me the steak
My wife's OM also was cheating on his pregnant wife, kid #3. It's just amazing how much wrong can be overlooked by the fog. The POS OM was at my house drinking beers with me at a party while it was going on (man I wish I knew then. . . I would have showed him my wood chipper in the garage ), and my wife helped the OM's wife plan her husband's surprise party. Unbelievable and disgusting at the same time. I want to do that wrestling move where I smash their heads together. Argh.
Re: Why go for a burger when you have steak at home?
Thought you were hungry for the dead possum for a sec JB, lol!
I like your analogy HurtinginTN.... many of us have days where we feel like brown bag lunch. It is what's on the inside that counts and being faithful is very attractive in my book.
My H fully admits he knew it would never last with the OW, because he would never be able to trust her or her him for that matter. He didn't realize until after d-day just how lucky he was to have a faithful wife. He was one of those guys who doubted my faithfulness due to his own infidelity. Now he knows I've been faithful and is starting to appreciate how it's not something to take for granted.
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Being left by your spouse would be hard enough, but then to see them with their AP all over the headlines happy and content would be like rubbing salt into a wound. Ouch!
), and my wife helped the OM's wife plan her husband's surprise party. Unbelievable and disgusting at the same time. I want to do that wrestling move where I smash their heads together. Argh.
