The words from my idol, Paul Newman, who (if you can believe it) remained faithful to Joanne.
Anyway, I suppose an affair is an affair. For those of us that are more analytical though, it's tough to understand exactly what the primary draw is/was.
In my case, my wife seems to have an attention addiction, which led to her affairs. They were lengthy with guys she was already friends with, and whether they sensed she was vulnerable or she green lighted the affair, it went all the way.
But here's the thing that is tough for me to come to terms with. The guys were losers, and half as attractive as me. The first was dumb as bricks, failed out of a basic civil service academy, and didn't have anything else going for him. The other was overweight and recently filed for personal BK (along with his pregnant wife and two other kids).
Not to toot my horn, but when it comes to opportunities, I've had women at my office basically tell (whisper to) me that they would be willing to lay down whenever I wanted to. I'm in my mid thirties, still have six pack abs, and according to my wife, "am so attractive and caring that she would never find someone like me ever again." Thanks hunny. . .where were those thoughts when you slept with other men?
I guess in a way I can answer my own question - my wife was hearing what she loved to hear from these pieces of sh!t - they just filled her ego up to the max, filled the need to be desired, thrill of the chase. . . BUT COME ON!
If I were to wander (and it would be scary easy given the bench of women that apparently are ready when I am [though I imagine that could change if I truly came on to them]), I THINK it would be with a woman that was hotter than my wife, perhaps wealthy, but at the least, someone that I felt was really well put together.
To cheat with a scrappy girl that was a hot mess or had baggage. . . what on earth? It just doesn't make sense to me.
Anyway, I suppose an affair is an affair. For those of us that are more analytical though, it's tough to understand exactly what the primary draw is/was.
In my case, my wife seems to have an attention addiction, which led to her affairs. They were lengthy with guys she was already friends with, and whether they sensed she was vulnerable or she green lighted the affair, it went all the way.
But here's the thing that is tough for me to come to terms with. The guys were losers, and half as attractive as me. The first was dumb as bricks, failed out of a basic civil service academy, and didn't have anything else going for him. The other was overweight and recently filed for personal BK (along with his pregnant wife and two other kids).
Not to toot my horn, but when it comes to opportunities, I've had women at my office basically tell (whisper to) me that they would be willing to lay down whenever I wanted to. I'm in my mid thirties, still have six pack abs, and according to my wife, "am so attractive and caring that she would never find someone like me ever again." Thanks hunny. . .where were those thoughts when you slept with other men?
I guess in a way I can answer my own question - my wife was hearing what she loved to hear from these pieces of sh!t - they just filled her ego up to the max, filled the need to be desired, thrill of the chase. . . BUT COME ON!
If I were to wander (and it would be scary easy given the bench of women that apparently are ready when I am [though I imagine that could change if I truly came on to them]), I THINK it would be with a woman that was hotter than my wife, perhaps wealthy, but at the least, someone that I felt was really well put together.
To cheat with a scrappy girl that was a hot mess or had baggage. . . what on earth? It just doesn't make sense to me.