11-27-2008, 04:54 AM
Join Date: Jul 2008
| | Re: emotional affair????
Originally Posted by pacmouse
It wasn't until after he read about emotional affairs and how they are started and progress that he saw what he was doing. He apologized and told me he didn't even know there was a name for what he was doing. He told me he was not going to continue with this friendship and was going to keep the relationship "only professional".
well good for him. i actually did something similar with my H, only it was an article on the effects of giving someone the silent treatment.
i think you should give your H credit for apologizing but be open and honest about how hurt you are and let him know its going to take you time to heal. Let him know you appreciate his efforts to work on the marriage, but its going to take you some time to recover. Ive found with my H that if i explain that im not trying to punish him or live in the past, but trying to move forward by dealing with the pain, he understands more.
make sure you let him know what you need from him to be able to trust him again. be very clear but make sure you let him know you appreciate his efforts.
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