so this past week I've noticed that my wife was extra clingy, been cuddling up to me a lot, lots of verbal love affirmations on the phone, longer hugs than usual, etc
Then yesterday afternoon after I was home for 10 minutes and we're sitting on the patio she was just staring at me with a silly grin and says, "I just want to say that I am truly lucky to have such a wonderful and great husband like you, you truly make me happy and I love you so much."
I was taken aback a bit and as much as I wanted to accept the compliment gracefully after saying "thanks honey I love you too" I asked why the rush of sentimentality?
"Because I know the 3 year mark is coming up and I just want you to know that you are the only one for me and I don't ever want to do something so stupid and hurtful like that again."
As much as my wife has been pro-active during our recovery and as much as she has done the heavy lifting, this may have been the 1st time she has broached the subject by herself in over 2 years. Mind you, she is never shy or defensive over talking about it when I need to talk about it or bring it up but after the year of hell, you could tell it wasn't on her mind as much as it is on mine.
So, for her to be proactively affectionate knowing that I might be triggering due to the date coming up AND the fact that I really am not triggering about the date says a lot about where we are.
so this past week I've noticed that my wife was extra clingy, been cuddling up to me a lot, lots of verbal love affirmations on the phone, longer hugs than usual, etc
Then yesterday afternoon after I was home for 10 minutes and we're sitting on the patio she was just staring at me with a silly grin and says, "I just want to say that I am truly lucky to have such a wonderful and great husband like you, you truly make me happy and I love you so much."
I was taken aback a bit and as much as I wanted to accept the compliment gracefully after saying "thanks honey I love you too" I asked why the rush of sentimentality?
"Because I know the 3 year mark is coming up and I just want you to know that you are the only one for me and I don't ever want to do something so stupid and hurtful like that again."
As much as my wife has been pro-active during our recovery and as much as she has done the heavy lifting, this may have been the 1st time she has broached the subject by herself in over 2 years. Mind you, she is never shy or defensive over talking about it when I need to talk about it or bring it up but after the year of hell, you could tell it wasn't on her mind as much as it is on mine.
So, for her to be proactively affectionate knowing that I might be triggering due to the date coming up AND the fact that I really am not triggering about the date says a lot about where we are.
If your reply below is still occurring you are recovering very nicely and your marriage is better than a lot of marriages that I know that never had infidelity to deal with.
for only three years you are way ahead of the game. Three years down and 30-40 years to go.
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Reply by Almostrecovered:
It's helped my kids for starters and as much as I don't think staying for the kids is a good reason by itself, it is most certainly a factor
It's been rewarding because we have something great
we "get" each other
we laugh at the same sh!t
we truly enjoy hanging out together
I look forward to seeing her after work and the weekends and she does for me
I ache for that body of hers and the sex is great not because of the frequency but because we know each others bodies' so well that we are experts on pleasing each other and it's truly a wonderful experience having someone who you can't keep your hands off of
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