Re: 2 years ago today...
One of the first things I noticed by perusing the cell phone records that night was that she placed a call to him on her drive into work the previous night (when I confronted her). This to me looked very suspicious, as if she couldn't even wait to get to work to let him know that I was onto them. That night I was dumb enough to confront again, this time I was a bit more sneaky at least.
Me- "So, any more time with OM (real name used of course)?"
me- "You been calling him a lot?"
her- "No, not really, in fact I haven't even spoken to him except dinner break."
"Oh really? Well, I know you're lying to me yet again now. I have phone records that you placed a call to him on your way to work last night. I really can't take this lying anymore and it has to stop! WTF is going on here, just be honest and tell me if you're having an affair so we can move on."
I was sitting in my "Archie Bunker" chair at the time. (the chair I would always sit in, my wife would sit on the couch usually with a table in between us, it was like that scene in Citizen Kane where Orson Wells and his wife get further apart at the dining room table) She came over to me and straddled me with her knees on both side of my thighs. She grabbed my cheeks with her hands to get me to look straight into her eyes. This moment is another one that is burned into my brain.
"I am sorry, I forgot about that call, I was just inviting him to our Octoberfest party. I promise you that I am not having an affair and I love you too much to do that to you."
She was so convincing, I felt like a fool for questioning her. I really wanted to believe her and thus I did for that moment.
We then had sex on the chair (the kids were already in bed) in the same position as she told me that lie.