LH, you were given a second chance! 2/3 years ago your husband gave you a second chance when he confronted you and you only admitted to a kiss. You blew your second chance(no pun intended) because you withheld some very significant facts about that night!!
Sorry about the t/j.
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Fully aware, but thanks for the reminder.
You know what I didn't do? I didn't continue my "affair". I didn't have continued secret contact. I didn't have any other interaction with another man. I never screwed around again, and wouldn't, even if I wasn't sitting where I am now.
Because even though I didn't fully wrap my head around what I did at the time, I still knew what I stood to lose and never wanted TO lose it.
I may not have had the best boundaries and interactions, but he didn't either.
But the one thing I NEVER did was go running back into the arms of the OM. My husband was never my plan B.
I made a choice that night to do what I did, but I made the choice after that to never do it again.
My husband rug swept. He never questioned me any further. He never asked for details, he never brought it up again. It is not his fault I didn't come clean sooner, but he surely made it easy for me not to.
Just like I've told every single BS on here.....you want details, you threaten divorce if you want answers. Otherwise, you are enabling your spouse to hide things.
Yeah, I'm paying the price now. And I have a ton of regrets. Most I probably won't ever get over. And I'd give my life to change them.
There's a good chance my marriage wouldn't have made it any way. Even if I hadn't done what I did. We've been struggling for a while. Long before this happened. But I was willing to stick it out.
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