No, as far as I know there has never been any abuse in her past at all. Itís quite a mystery to all who know of the situation. Someone related it to a person getting addicted to drugs. Once hooked your always looking for that little extra high and going a bit further each time. She has always enjoyed being the center of attention. Other than that I'm baffled. I suppose anyone can find a vice that others are unable to relate to.
I've talked to her several times over the past week but it's extremely difficult gaining information of these outings. She has been out three times this month so far. I've also stressed the impact itís having on me and the potential problems it can cause for the families future. Information gained: Klause has a wife who is involved in these meetings or setups. Being brought to various houses where B&D and S&M activities are the norm. She still claims she very much enjoys the nights out as they push her limits of what she called rapture. She now has small tattoos around her ankels of chains and a small tattoo on her right upper back of the words "Property of Klause" surrounded by barb wire. It's not that big and can probably be either removed or covered over later - I'm hoping.
Only saving grace is she said something to the effect of "don't worry, it won't last forever". W/O saying anything further I sensed something in that saying "hope exists I won't go to much further". So how can I push this excursion of life a little faster to see that light at the end of the tunnel ASAP. I'm not leaving her or giving up. Thatís for sure. She's too beautiful, both inside and out. Everyone goes thru some kind of turmoil in their marriage and life. This must be ours.
Dude, she has been cheating on you for years it isn't like she is ever going to change she has everything she wants and you have to deal with her actions. Funny that when clause throws her away you'll be left to get the left overs. She is using you. How is your self esteem?
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Re: the open marriage delima
Well, I’ve seen some twisted stories here and at other forums but this one takes the Oscar, (If it is indeed true). If so I don’t know who I pity more, you or your wife. One thing is for sure, I feel great sadness for your children who are being “brought up” in this kind of an environment. I think I will exit form this train wreck. Thanks.
She now has small tattoos around her ankels of chains and a small tattoo on her right upper back of the words "Property of Klause" surrounded by barb wire. It's not that big and can probably be either removed or covered over later - I'm hoping.
But if not you could just grow a big white beard and become her 'Klause'. This is way more than the average turmoil within a marriage & the longer you choose to be a doormat about it, the worse it will get. She may stop with Klause, but if she's gone down this path the next adventure will probably only get worse.
Don't you see that she has put klause ahead of you. She belongs to him, at his command OVER you and your family. Could you reach her if a child went to the ER? What if she loses her job will Klause care, or will just your family suffer? Do you know if all her clients are getting tested for STDs, who has to pay if you and the wife gets one? How about if you die from AIDS who will care for your kids, Klause?
Please understand I am far from perfect with a far from perfect marriage - with that said, here is some tough love for you:
You are one selfish SOB! You deserve everything you're getting, but your kids sure as hell don't!! I have never seen a grown adult exploit his own children as to shield his own insecurities such as you do!!
You use your own innocent children as an excuse for not wanting to leave your wife, but the truth is you're so damned selfish and insecure that you don't want to face life without your - 'wife'.
What happens if:
This scum-bag comes to your home and harms your innocent kids!
This life-style causes mommy to die!
Mommy catches disease and gives it to daddy so they both can die together!
What a warm fuzzy feeling - Christmas without mommy and daddy.
Funny - I always thought daddies always put the priorities of their children above their own selfish desires.
I guess not in this case!
Don't worry, I'm sure you'll do what's most important for YOU!