Just to explain why I said if this was a joke I'd consider it sick. I come on the boards everyday to help people. I would find it a waste of my time if some wanted to play a joke, when I have invested time and emotions into trying to help them. Almost every night I have a list of people I pray for, their are people who have come and gone I honestly worry about. Others have made me feel uplifted when they succeed.
There are two things I do get on a personal level. One that I know I helped someone somehow. Two I am thankful for almost eleven years of a wonderful marriage even if other things haven't worked my marriage has been a true blessing.
Please rest asured this is no crazy tale or fiction story. I to am busy w/ the family and my career as well. Of all the responces by far most seem to say "get out".
That may be the wise move however my hopes in posting here was really looking for advise on how to save my marriage and my wife, not to tell erotic tales.
I could easily just find an attorney & file for divorce. But what would that cost as far as the children go? That was considered. Others go thru years of substance abuse only to overcome it and go on to lead productive lives. Could this not be a simular situation?
I've read other story of infidelity where one or the other cheated for years only to have it end in a return to a very happy marriage. That's what I'm hoping for. Any advise other than "JUST GET OUT NOW". would still be appreciated.
Any advise other than "JUST GET OUT NOW". would still be appreciated.
Yes. Decide on your line in the sand, lay down the law, and mean it. If you can't "man up" to that, take the children and leave. If you can't do either of those two things, then work on yourself until you can. You may have a very small window in time, so get to it.
Please rest asured this is no crazy tale or fiction story. I to am busy w/ the family and my career as well. Of all the responces by far most seem to say "get out".
That may be the wise move however my hopes in posting here was really looking for advise on how to save my marriage and my wife, not to tell erotic tales.
I could easily just find an attorney & file for divorce. But what would that cost as far as the children go? That was considered. Others go thru years of substance abuse only to overcome it and go on to lead productive lives. Could this not be a simular situation?
I've read other story of infidelity where one or the other cheated for years only to have it end in a return to a very happy marriage. That's what I'm hoping for. Any advise other than "JUST GET OUT NOW". would still be appreciated.
Than just accept that she will do whatever she wants, putting you and your children in danger, shut up let her walk all over you, and take what ever she will give you. There problem solved until dhhs takes away your kids or her clients start coming to your house, stalking her or worse. But hey keep your mouth shut and accept it all at least you have your trophy wife.
I agree with Drac'. Why come here? Why waste our time? Just shut up and accept that you're a doormat.
You may as well call DHS (or whatever family services are called where you are) and tell them to come get the kids.
Obviously you don't care about them. Also obviously your wife doesn't.
Give them up now so you don't have to buy xmas presents! Then go live on a rock somewhere. Or under it...which ever suits your concept of living a life.
Yes. Decide on your line in the sand, lay down the law, and mean it. If you can't "man up" to that, take the children and leave. If you can't do either of those two things, then work on yourself until you can. You may have a very small window in time, so get to it.
and i don't really see how the risk/reward plays against you. if you tell her "cut this **** out or i'm gone," she's already gone. lay down a heavy freakin' ultimatum. it'll make you feel a little more "alpha" at the very least.
Have we ever heard the phrase "good things come to those who wait"? I believe most here said "get out". or " its over" and things to that effect. I was really looking for emotional support or sound advise on how to snap her out of her vise. As it turned out time had to run its course. The week after I last wrote she went out on a Friday to meet Klause and returned Sunday evening. That must have been the breaking point or event depending on your perspective. I'm not going to detail what she told me happened as erotic tale telling isn't my point nor a forum for this board. I'll just say she was brought somewhere upstate by Klause and his friends where some seriously nasty mean evil & painfully sadistic stuff happened.
Upon her arrival home she was crying while hugging me like never before saying she was sorry over and over. That was I sensed the turning point. As of now we are chilling out with most things that don't involve all of us togeather. The physical scars will soon disappear but the emotional scars will take much longer to fade from memory.
If anyone might at this time have any more "positive" advise on how to further tighten the marriage rope bewteen us to hopefully keep any more Klauses from entering our ring it would be nice to here...
doesn't change the fact that you need to stand up for yourself...so crap like this doesn't happen again...and really...if you don't think she was at risk or you don't care whether she was at risk (and your passivity towards the lifestyle says that to me) then you need just a little alpha...if someone physically harmed my wife, whether she was a "willing participant" or not, there'd be hell to pay...
I think you both need to go to counciling because unless she turns into ms clever this will likely happen again. This started by her cheating on you, and nothing is worth it to me to have a cheating spouce and to flaunt it would be a breaking point aswell.
Charles please listen to the good advice you are getting here. There is no sane reason for you to keep putting up with what your wife is doing. It is dangerous for a lot of reasons. Her addiction to this "master" is obviously stronger than her love for you and her children. She has to get help to break it and she doesn't want help. She has lost touch with reality. You have to do whatever you have to to protect yourself and your kids. Tell her she has to stop or you will get a lawyer and divorce her and take the children away from her. You should have never given your "permission" for her to continue these "nights out". Now it has escalated to this. You can't turn a blind eye to this any longer. Someone is going to be seriously physically hurt.
I too am suspect that this is really happening but I know there are lots of sick people out there too. If you want to stay with this woman you deserve all you get. God help your children.
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