andylee

LucyinSC and others.

Klauss has called several times but hasn't gotten past the answering machine. I honestly believe She will not see him again. I see now it was a phase in her life that she needed to explore and find the limit. Believe me if you knew what happened that weekend and could have see her return as I did - you would also be convinced that there would be no further contact.
She does seem like a changed woman. You all probably don't understand but there is a deep appreciation I sense from her for letting this play out. And one that silently says it won't hapen again.

Initfortheduration

Thank goodness things can go back to normal. With her merely screwing every man she comes across. If the story is true you deserve each other. The greatest adulterer and the greatest cuckold. A match made in heaven.

voivod

ha...and we were told we just didn't understand...looks like we understand just fine...

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GAsoccerman

I'm surprised she did not wind up dead.

It will be only a matter of time before she goes back to this kind of lifestyle

I feel sorry for your kids

iwillsurvive

I know you wrote this some time ago and I hope things have gotten better for you since then. This was the statement that caught me when I read through this post and I wanted to comment on.

I do think it is possible for couples to come back from infidelity to a happy marriage- if it is what both partners want and are willing to work for. Usually that requires the cheater to stop cheating and break off any and all contact with the lover(s). If your wife isn't willing to give up the lifestyle that has her captive (the sleeping with many different men, S&M, etc.) then it is possible you could come to resent this.

She is living the life she wants without thinking how her time away from home affects you and the kids. If you both have successful careers, I would guess the kids are in daycare and the only time they have with you are in the evenings and weekends. And if that time is spent being with other men, then I would worry she isn't very committed to her family, as she is putting her own needs first. And I would guess where she isn't there you are picking up the slack.

If you want your marriage "back" then you both have to want it. And if she isn't at that point, you can stay and wait it out and hope that she eventually only wants you or you can be content knowing that something is lacking enough in her life that she needs all these other men to fill it. Or you can say that you can't live with it or that you feel it's not good on your marriage or your children and leave. But you need to make sure that you are truly happy with whatever situation you decide to live with.

Deejo

Wasn't this a movie on Lifetime?

sunflower

close the marriage it will end in divorce jelousy anger hate. dont do it.

marriageanswers

Charles,

Often times we go through changes in our marriages. These things are natural to some degree, but I will tell you what you are going through with your wife is not new. She has had this in her mind for a long, long time. These things tend to develop early in sexual development. Possibly in the teens even. The advice I would give to you is to end it immediately for the sake of everybody affected. I'm not going to say anybody is right or wrong, because frankly you could argue about that all day long. The key fact is that she is no longer a good fit for you. She is refusing to give up her ways because It gives her so much pleasure. A common mistake that spouses make is believing that if they try hard enough they can change the other person and set them on a path in the right direction. This is the job of a counselor. When it comes to something as major as this - it needs to be cut off. I am truly sorry for what you are going through and I know that it won't be easy to get through. I have seen countless situations like this and they all end in either extreme frustration from failing to change the spouse or extreme gullibility and sometimes denial from the person in your position. I feel for you and I hope you get through this. If you have any other questions please feel free to contact us @ MarriageAnswers.Net

moogvo

I don't love anyone THAT damn much!

~Moog

andylee

Just a follow up to all those who said forget it and move on or dump her. Well its been several months and no relapse to Klause. Even thou he tried to get her back w/ threats and even mailing us a video he made of her during one of the outings. A lot of what people said here was true. He was prostituting her out, making dozens of movies & even stuped so low as to use her to pay off a debt to someone via her services one night.
But again there has been no return. We go the tatoo altered from the POK to a flower like tatoo. It actually came out ok but now she's using something called wrecking baum to completely remove it. The other things stayed.
If anything you would think people on this site would have been more supportive w/ perhaps more suggestions. ANyway thanks to those who did offer support - everything helped.

Keely

I am absolutely thrilled and delighted that you have demonstrated your unconditional love to your wife by fully supporting her. This is a secret between you and your wife, and you will together work through all the issues; and your children will never know about it.

I was shocked that others wanted you to smash your marriage, and take children off their biological mother. You were right to want to avoid the years of stress and confusion that your children would suffer from having their mother taken from them.

Divorce is never a solution. It hurts children BIG TIME.

Your wife will provide you with more details as she slowly heals inside from the experience. I can see how she was slowly sucked in to B and D and all her lovers from her nights out with her female friends. I hope that some of her friends are not also locked into the lifestyle and unable to break free (like she has).

It is possible that some of the films may surface, but I know that you and your wife can work through any issues regarding that.

It might be helpful to have someone find out more about Kraus, so you can direct the Police to him if he tries to blackmail your wife into returning to his harem.

I wish you and your wife every success in growing your marriage even stronger. She may find that she still wants an occasional lover, but she can be more choosy in the future.

JBMB0922

I have no idea why you are even asking this question.

Women who have emotional affairs (IE, affairs with no contact) usually are enough to end marraiges. Let alone being a sex slave, sleeping with hundreds of men, and running all over your feelings or giving a sh*t about you.

She doesn't need help, you do buddy. Can't you find someone better? Youre completely blinded by the fact you love her. Guess what, you always will, even after you divorce her, you will still love her.

You can't keep living like this, you are putting your kids lives in jeopardy and if you can't realize this than you my friend are a complete fool.

Maybe the day she leaves you for her sex slave or one of her f*ck buddies from the past finds out where she lives and does harm to her, you, or your children... Maybe than youll wake up. How about the day you find yourself dieing from AIDS?

Here's a great plan... just do nothing and wait for her to make her moves and you can just react to them for the rest of your life.

If this post makes you angry with me than that's fine as it will just be another excuse to not listen to anyone and keep living your life like this.

Get rid of her and move on with your life. Close this chapter of your book before she closes it for you and you're left with nothing but STDs and a cardboard box.

kenmoore14217

Come on folks.......This is FAKE, FAKE, FAKE......it reads like a cheap Harlequin novel. It NEVER happened!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!