Re: The Need to be Needed...
One of the things that surprised me the most when my husband confessed his affair with a coworker was how much he missed intimacy and "feeling like he was not part of our lives".......He works long hours, and I have always had to take care of everything, house, bills, children etc.
I was quite touched to hear this....and it kind of makes me wonder why we assume only WOMEN want to be needed, have intimacy, etc. I think we women have sold some men short, and it sounds like you have a keeper too.
We too talk very openly now, too. The hurt is still very fresh for me (two months), but getting better. It helps that he is so open, remorseful, and deeply regrets the affair.
But it also hurts that they still work in the same place....I was wondering if your spouse still works with the OP, and if so, how you deal with this. It's the one thing I still struggle with.