BeenThereAndSuffering

My H never wore his ring I haven't taken mine off since my wedding day except to clean it and it went straight back on, since our R he put his on and hasnt taken it off and our anniversary is coming up in July and he recommended new rings for a new beginning...but I love my rings and though we have went through so much we are moving on and my rings remind me that I am strong and how far we have come and I don't want to take them off.

Mrs. T

The rings from the first marriage were thrown at the ex after he was caught with his pants down. I don't know what he did with them (his or mine). The rings my second husband gave me are on my left hand where I pray they will always be.

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LeighRichwood

I wore my ring through the whole ordeal because I felt that I'd take it off when/if I wasn't married anymore. My H didn't wear his all the time because of his job. Now he doesn't wear the original one because he's gained weight and it doesn't fit anymore!! We recently got another one that fits and he wears it when he's not at work.

If we had divorced, I'd have saved mine to give to our daughter when she's older. I'd have pawned his.

KanDo

wore mine religously through the marriage but took it off when the whole truth came out and haven't put it on since then. It is in the glove box of my car because I didn't want her stealing it if I left it at home when she was there.

dalvin_au

I have taken mine off recently. The pain and anguish my STBXW caused was too much to bear. I have her rings, and mine. in the same place...I hope spiritually my Lord, My God can do some healing.

LeighRichwood

Dalvin - I feel for you. I hear the pain and I'm praying for healing.

balochbrud

Nice question.My ring is in actually in a jewelry box.I cant wear that ring because it is platinum and it is very expensive.

canttrustu

I havent worn mine since dday and I wont until he is away from Her(at least). He still has his on(oddly enough?)

hurtingbadly

Mine are still on, but sometimes when I start feeling angry I take them off for a bit just to see how it feels. I asked him to take his off, that I wanted him to get a new ring as he was wearing his when he cheated. It bothers me his wedding ring was rubbing up against her boobs!!! He got mad and left. When he came home that night he still had it on. The more I think about it, the more I think they mean nothing. He told me he wanted to renew his vows during the trickle truth days. So none of it means much to me anymore. He tells me it is sentimental to him. It sure wasn't sentimental that night.

canttrustu

My H and I bought him a new ring during his EA! OMG, really? What a JA. Anyway, I asked him to take it off and put the old one back on or wear none b/c as far as I was concerned the new one was tainted and everytime I looked at it I thought about what he was doing during the time we bought it(trigger) and how it meant NOTHING. He took it off and put the original one on. I want to throw the new one off a bridge. What nerve, to buy a wedding band WHILE you are cheating on your wife. Gee Whiz have you NO sense of right and wrong?

arbitrator

Mine and my STBXW's are the diamond studded wedding rings that were once my Mom's and Dad's that I inherited from their estate. Her diamond solitaire engagement ring was also my Mother's.

STBXW quit wearing hers back early last year prior to the actual separation. I, however, continue to wear mine, but only as a token of respect for the institution of marriage, but mostly to honor Mom and Dad's 55 years together as husband and wife. And I will continue to do so up until the gavel falls for the final time in our divorce proceeding.

I'd like to say that, in time, that there might be another lady who I would give due consideration to marrying, and if that ever happens, I'd rather use other bands. As family heirlooms, these pricey rings of my parents are something that I'd like to give to one my sons to use when the time comes for them to walk the aisle. And that's provided that STBXW decides to relinquish the rings in the divorce property settlement.

I'm listing STBXW's rings as my personal inherited property in the property inventory. If she does not willingly give them up, or legally wins them as part of her own property, I may have to have her sign a contract to never sell them and to relinquish them to either of my son's upon their request, or at the time of her death to keep them from falling under the umbrella of her estate in order to keep them out of her kids hands.

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