Jellybeans

How was the sex different when he got home? New technique? Rushed?

I would save the email where he said "I gave her the it's all my fault line" for future reference.

GET A VAR! GET A VAR! GET A VAR! TN can help you with that since he's an expert.

realistic

I emailed him as the other woman for a while, then he figured it out. Im not sure exactly when he figured it out. He asked the other woman how well she knew lisa. and told her lisa had been texting him.

Then, think he figured it out. I told him did he want me to hook him up with lisa. He replied: i got it covered. she is in town and going to text him tonite to meet up.

Jellybeans

How were you able to email him as the other woman?

WTF?

realistic

I found out i was faking being her when he called her and asked her if she was emailing him. I really think the first two or three emails were real and he didn't know it was her. I know i probably blew it by doing this, but i had to know. Things were adding up.

I have no way to check on him now, he would delete texts.

realistic

just pretended to be her on email from private email acct.

realistic

well...the sex was rushed somewhat and his ejeculation was less. He had been gone for two weeks...hello??

Jellybeans

There are ways.

Paging TN... Paging TN...

GET A VAR!!!!!!!!! Do it today!

realistic

I don't know what a VAR is...

tacoma

Take this...

Walmart.com: RCA VR5320 1GB Digital Voice Recorder: iPods & MP3 Players

Stick some velcro tape to it and attach it under his car seat.

It records when it detects sound so it will be able to pick up his side of any cell phone conversation he has in his car.

realistic

My problem is he had an answer or explanation for everything. We have been married for 23 yrs. I just have to know for sure. I need proof. Contacting the women didn't help me. They were vague and very evassive. Never admitting done anything wrong. He is getting irritated that im not over this.

I hate to say this...but maybe i deserve it. We had a really bad time about 10 yrs ago for about 8 yrs. I was at a very low point and he was very angry and mean...and i had an affair.. I think this may be payback.

ladybird

Something is defiantly going on. I am 95% sure he is having an affair.


"got condoms, are you ready to go again?" He went out to get condoms to have sex with her again.. The story he gave you sounds like total crap...

That was a wild night last night." As in they had sex...

If you are having red flags going on every which way, which i am sure you are, then chances are he is having an affair.. your subconscious already knows the truth. I hope he is not, but from what i have read so far he is...

You need to get more evidence..

Dont confront him again, until you get more proof. He can say that the text messages meant something different. (even though they don't) Confronting him lets him know that you are suspicious and he will take the affair deeper underground and make it almost impossible for you to find the truth..


A VAR is a voice activated recorder, GET ONE. You can pick them up at walmart for pretty cheap... Put it in his car somewhere he will not find it. You might be surprised what you might find once you listen to it....

piqued

Realistic, what REASON did he give for lying to you? Why did he say he told you he was sick instead of just telling you he was going out with the group?

Has this been an issue in the past? Are you the jealous type? IOW, what would prompt him to lie (even if he was trying to get in the girl's pants)? I mean, it would be pretty easy to say "I went out with the group for some drinks last night" without admitting he ended up with a woman. So, what is in your relationship that he would lie about something that innocent and simple?

aeg512

One thing you can do and you need to be firm with this request is to tell him you want him to send you pictures of the party within one hour. One hour should give him time to obtain them. Tell him you will find it hard to believe that they would string up condoms and no one took pictures. Can anyone here remember a party of this type where pictures were not taken, even though they shouldn't have been? There is a whole lot more to this than he is telling you. Also, even though it is a work phone he should be able to get a call log for the two weeks he was gone. He could use the excuse that he received a business call and the number is not showing and he forgets which day it was. That could tell you whether the phone really was out of service for several days or not.

HurtinginTN

Not a title I ever wanted. I think they covered it pretty well.

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jnj express

Contact the H. of the woman he said he was hot for----see what he knows, you might be able to use him as an ally

Matters not that you cheated in the past----he is cheating now, and you know it, it is now that you are dealing with!!

Don't take any crap from him, tell him what he is doing, the flirty conversations, the going out---tell him its inappropriate, and WILL stop---You are letting him know you won't tolerate this anymore, w/out giving up your evidence, and keep on working to get solid evidence

You MUST have some actionable consequences, if he continues to stray on you---words, are meaningless