09-16-2011, 10:58 AM
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: So Cal
| | Re: i need help a.s.a.p. wifes emotional affair.
Originally Posted by jaypap
she told her OM on Tuesday that they were thru..which kinda explains the way she was acting on Wednesday (the tantrum with the pulling of her hair and all her frustrations coming out like she was self destructing) almost like a crackhead going thru withdraws
That is because an affair causes the brain to secret a powerful co*ktail of dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, etc. Similar to crack cocaine which causes the brain to release a large amount of dopamine which causes euphoria and later depression when the levels of dopamine plummet.
Dr Willard Harley PhD who is the founder of Marriage Builders, once operated a series of drug rehabilitation clinics and noticed that the same withdrawal symptoms present in drug addicted people were also present in people who had been involved in affairs.
Just like with a drug addict, the only way for a cheating spouse to recover from an affair is to go 'cold turkey' from his/her lover
. And as you've witnessed first hand, it ain't a pretty sight.
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