Re: i need help a.s.a.p. wifes emotional affair.
From what I read it looks like you had no other option but to file for divorce. I mean if theres any regret its at the fact that your WW is still in the fog.
IMHO reality will start to set, #1 the affair is exposed and the thrill and excitement is fading. Soon Mr. wonderful won't be so wonderful..... day in and day out.
#2 You are stepping up and now have made this affair inconvienent for her. Her back up guy (you ) is moving on.
As her AP (affair partner) and it relationship stresses, and her lack of family and kids will wear her down. She may see the light of day siting in the court room waiting for a divorce.
Stay the course the both of you have a long way to go. soon things will crumble around her. Especially when things like abandonment , child support, and bills start to effect her fantasy world.
This is just my $0.02 , what do I know, right. The important thing is to keep making this affair as uncomfortable and as inconvienent as possibly. You have the kids so let her sister and the OM take care of her. Give a real good taste of what is about to come her way if she continues.
What finacial steps have you taken to speed the process along. What are you paying for and if you stopped it will really shine a light on her new reality when you divorce? Health care, auto insurance, cell phone again I'm just thinking maybe its time to make a big point here.
I guess you better ask your lawyer 1st.