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how to catch my husband cheating?

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#1 ·
I have recently learned that my husband and friend had a "previous" sexual relationship that I was unaware of. I have asked both of them and they have completely different accounts of when they stopped and how many times they had sex. My friend has always had a lot of access to my husband, they spend a lot of time together. I also learned that my husband is a manwh0re, which I could tell after the first time I slept with him that he was an expert in bed. He told me the other day he slept with 54 women. Anyhow, I think my friend and him are still having sex and it was suggested to me to post it in this forum since people have had similar experiences, and they had good ideas on how to catch him cheating.
 
#6 ·
I agree that the above link will give you tons of info on how to find out what is going on.

What I want to add it that you DO NOT say a word to either of them until you have all the info you need to prove that there is an affair still going on.

Then you need a plan for confronting them, exposing the affair, and for whether or not you want to try to reconcile or just divorce. When it’s time to develop that plan, we here on TAM can help you brain storm it.
 
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Shes my best friend, I gave her a key to our apartment because she has a lot of with her roommate, they hate each other. So I told her she could use our place anytime she wanted to get away, so shes here a lot. I was unware that they had sex before, I had no idea. Shes the one that set me up with my husband, her boyfriend and him play on the same baseball team. So it never even crossed my mind that they had ever had sex before, as I have gathered it was not just once. It was anywhere between 10 and 30 times, she said 10 before I met him, he said 20-30 and the last time was 2 months after I met him.
 
#12 ·
I don't know if he is cheating or not. Its certainly your right to investigate, but if all you have is that she says 10 times and he says 20, I don't really see that as a smoking gun. I can't speak for all men, but once you've slept with someone more than two or three times. I don't think we really count to be honest with you. I think he just gave you his best guess.
 
#18 ·
Elegirl is spot on. Keep your MOUTH SHUT about it. It may take a bit of time but you need hard evidence and if he IS cheating he will LIE LIE LIE. Fight the demon to confront too soon as you only get one time to confront. When emotions are getting you it's easy to run into the room and drop the bomb and confront. I confronted too soon as have many others on TAM.

You need to snoop. Get access to his phone. Watch him when he types in the passcode if you don't have it. Even better if he thinks you don't have access to he won't be as diligent to delete. Then get Dr Fone wondershare. When you get the phone you will plug it in and do a backup on iTunes if it's an iphone. Depending on how much stuff is on his phone such as pictures it will take about 5-10 minutes. You can practice on your own phone as it's pretty simple and you can look at it later once you have the file.

In my case I simply waited for the right time when she was sleeping and the phone was in an area I could grab it, hooked it up and pressed backup. I had kept my laptop on each night so I when I got the phone I could do it as quickly as possible. All her old photos, text messages, websites visited. call history and numbers, etc. There was some loss of whatsapp text but I already had more than enough. I even lucked out as she had listed a password in the iphone notes so it was a jackpot as I could then read her email. best move I ever did as I had the truth even when it hurt.

In my case my ex fiancé was not cheating, but she was have lots of text conversations with other men that were far beyond appropriate even after we had agreed on certain people being an issue. She also hid the fact that one of her male friends she had met via online dating site yet swore they never shagged once I confronted her. The fact that her friends did not even know how he and her met was a bit of clue ;) Just lost any trust in her on top of her revealing her past affair as well as having slept with a married guy. Too much history for me.... Without snooping I could not have know the amount of things she hid and lied about.
 
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#25 ·
Ok Becca, how about a little info and clarification:

a. how long did you date and how long have you been married?

b. you said these two former lovebirds slept together two months after ya'll started dating. Had it become an known and accepted exclusive relationship or were you two simply "hanging out" the first couple of months?

c. beyond their previous 10-20 time of diddling, what gives you reason to believe they are still going at it?
 
#27 ·
IIRC, she found out that her husband and her friend were still banging. (This was all in another thread.)

He said he'd stop, she said she believed him, and she stopped responding once pretty much everyone called bullsh*t.

And that's if you even bought it all.
 
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