Absolutely irate!

aug · 09-17-2011, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by onthefence16

Oh my....I am in a very similar situation....I feel for you....we are together 8 years...found out about the OW a month ago...I work out of town...traveling therapsit....my H spoke with OW 2 weeks ago...lied about the phone numbers and text message numbers I found....I don't know what to do....he's been addicted to porn for years and now this.....I feel for you...we don't have children....I want to expose the affair but he says no it would destroy her reputation. She's a worship leader in a church of all things......He has written a book on the Holy Tabernacle of the Most High while having the affair....just unbelievable these men.....I am on the fence still...Am I a fool? It is very hard to make a decision when you truly love your spouce......very hard.....

See the responses to the other post you made.

Maybe you should start your own thread so the comments may be directed to you.

the guy · 09-17-2011, 10:31 AM

Did OW reply?

Expose this and confront OW.

Inform her that you are aware of the last email and will be confronting your H when his shift is over, and exposing this A if she doesn't respect the marriage and continues to contact your H.

Do not engage her with anything other then the fact that you plan on exposing the A, the OW will want to tell you alkinds of crap and do not respond, just finish the conversation with how it bagan, you know about the last email and you plan to expose the adultous relationship.

The point to this is to make the old affair as inconvienent and as uncomfortable to restart, by confronting the OW you smart enough to validate your H commitment, by exposing it to other by asking for there support in the marriage.

fool for love · 09-20-2011, 10:58 PM

Contact her AND confront him. He is apologizing for being a "liar" to her, there may be more to this then you know. Confront her woman to woman. Then considering your situation decide if its a marriage you are willing to work through (he must be committed as well) or be prepared to move forward.