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Old 09-18-2011, 12:40 AM   #31 (permalink)
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As much as I wish for the OM to get his well deserved beat down, I wouldn't wish for his death, nor would I take any joy in it. As for the side topic of karma, I don't believe in that at all. What the hell did I do to deserve being cheated on in two different marriages? Not that I believe in that reincarnation crap either, but geez, was I an OM in a previous life or something? But that would mean karma and reincarnation are real and that goes against my beliefs.
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Old 09-18-2011, 01:04 AM   #32 (permalink)
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As for the side topic of karma, I don't believe in that at all. What the hell did I do to deserve being cheated on in two different marriages? Not that I believe in that reincarnation crap either, but geez, was I an OM in a previous life or something? But that would mean karma and reincarnation are real and that goes against my beliefs.
Good point LM.

As much as the OM may have flirted with self-destruction and helped with the destruction of marriages and families, he may have left a mother and father, brothers and sisters, and maybe even children, who may have loved him and may be at this moment grieving his passing. Because of THEM I take no joy in his demise.
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Old 09-18-2011, 01:27 AM   #33 (permalink)
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I certainly would not condone murder, but I think certain individuals, especially predatory men who go after married women, do deserve extreme repercussion. After all, the law is not there to protect us from these psychos whereas there is law against child molestors and rapists. We are expected to solely rely on our voluntary moral codes and conscience to maintain orders in these aspects of life. So, what do we do about these sociopathic home wreckers? Legally, there is very little we can do to control them. We see them all the time, and it's frustrating to say the least.

How many innocent families do these people have to destroy to deserve such punishment as this? I am sure there is certain point at which the society is just better off by getting rid of them no matter the methodology, no?

I just cannot spare a shred of sympathy for this man.
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I just cannot spare a shred of sympathy for this man.
Neither do I but I do for those that may have been his loved ones who may be grieving and bear no responsibility for his actions.
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Neither do I but I do for those that may have been his loved ones who may be grieving and bear no responsibility for his actions.
For the rapists and child molestors who get long term jail sentences or even death penalty, their loved ones must feel hurt, but so? I think at some point, such side effect become trivial to the far greater damages they inflict.
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For the rapists and child molestors who get long term jail sentences or even death penalty, their loved ones must feel hurt, but so?
You have just defined yourself in the same terms as the OM.
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Old 09-18-2011, 03:13 AM   #37 (permalink)
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You have just defined yourself in the same terms as the OM.
There are varying degrees of "hurt". A prickled finger to chopped limbs. Just because I sound insensitive to the "hurt" by the loved ones around the child molestors and rapists getting punished, you equate me with OM? You lost me with your logic there.
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Old 09-18-2011, 05:19 AM   #38 (permalink)
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hey guys where I live I can kill the OM and turn myself in and with a good lawyer I'll get maximum 7 years and if I caught them in act I'll kill them both and dance over their bodies tell the cops arrive and I'll put in jail just as much it take CSI to make sure I didn't fake it and if it confirmed I'm free so I feel really good for u morituri even if u don't it's just plain justice been served

If it's not really about revenge USA army shouldn't be in Afghanistan or Iraq right now
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The War on Terror is not about revenge and never has been. Break out your history book and a world map. Back in the early 1970s, Islamic Fundamentalists laid out a plan to organize the entire Arab world under Fundamentalist Islamic leadership. The plan requires taking over an Arab country to be used as a springboard for spreading the movement to the others. They took Iran. Trouble is, Iran is Persia. Look at world map and see where Iraq
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Mori--you will have to keep us posted with what happened. Have you heard anything else about it? What a truly crazy story.

I don't think fighting wars or child molestors or rapists are the same thing as 'other women ad other men.'

With that said, I think it's normal for betrayed spouses to want the 'other women and other men" someday to find themselves married and have their spouse cheat on them.
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Old 09-18-2011, 10:01 AM   #41 (permalink)
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The jerk my wife cheated with died at age 50 just before I found out who he was.

He was not murdered, but his lousy lifestyle led to his early death.

If I knew where that cretin's rotting carcass is buried I'd piss on his grave.

Why?

To grease his way to Hell.
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Just don't let me get eaten by my dogs, is all I ask.
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…. and please people, do not host fundraising car washes at the corner gas stations or convenience stores in my name for funeral expenses.

Always seems kind of ironic to me when reports in the local news are of “So-n-So” who was murdered as direct result to the bottom dwelling lifestyle they chose to live and two days later their associated low life friends are standing on the corner holding a sign with “So-n-So” name on it and “Car Wash” to raise funds for funeral expenses.
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Old 09-18-2011, 02:56 PM   #44 (permalink)
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My WW last OM end back in jail, now that was a reason to rejoyce. Granted his adult daughter and even his parants are sad. The point is this guy made some poor choices.

It seems M- exwife OM also made some bad choices and with that it cost him his life. It may have been a random act , but something tells me it wasn't and with that then maybe justice was served.
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Old 09-18-2011, 03:09 PM   #45 (permalink)
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This is not the first time that a murder has hit close to home. Back when I was 20 years old, I took a part time job at a men's clothing store to help with college book expenses. On my first day at work, one of the girls who worked as a cashier told me how the previous kid who did my job had been arrested on the premises and charged with murder. I really wasn't that much interested in her story so I forgot about it. Then one day, many months after she had told me the story, I was reading the newspaper and I happened to come on to a full one page article of the story detailing the gruesome details of the murder, the victims and the murderers. To make a long story short, the kid who had the job before I came on the scene, got together with his best friend, planned and carried out the murder of his father and his step-mother. I was blown away at this Greek like tragedy. It's been 32 years since that happened, but I will remember it for the rest of my life.
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