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post #76 of 115 (permalink) Old 09-20-2011, 01:21 PM
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It's only ludacris in your world. What a SWAT team intends to do depends on the circumstances. There is a time for healing and a time for killing. I don't enjoy it but I recognize it as a sad and necessary fact of life. Doesn't matter whether you approve of this or any other war. I work for you. You sent me. You sent me to kill people. You're free because others have killed and because others are ready to kill in your name. That is the price of your safety and the price of your freedom. If you call the police to your house, they won't show up with smores and if they have to take a life, it isn't a personal vendeta but society (you included) pulling the trigger. Dig around a few mass graves of infants. Work a few homicide cases or child rape cases. Collect the bodies of decapitated American soldiers. Maybe you won't be so shocked that others have to do what needs to be done. Yea, I've taken out some trash for you and I have zero problems reporting as much when I stand before the Almighty.

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It is so incredibly saddening and sickening to read the posters that rejoice or are apathetic to a murder! It is disheartening to see such cold heartless venom uttered from mouths, such contemptous thoughts! To read of karmic buses... is there no empathy are you not human??

Was it justice.. perhaps... but there is no information from the OP as to the circumstances nor situation.

Barely a shred of compassion....

Just rash harsh judgement from most... all I see is people throwing stones who live in glass houses! I can't imagine anyone condemning another when they refuse to look at themselves... are you so pure and perfect???

Unbelievable - I am flabbergasted! You call yourself decent??? If you suggest people 'need' killing then pick up your sword and have at it instead of boasting to a computer screen. See how far you get... will you be praised as a hero??? How can you talk of humanity??!! If you wish to live a life with "an eye for an eye" mentality then retribution shall be forever.. everyone will be blind! Are you so perfect? Have you not the capacity to forgive??

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Wow, where is the concern for the victim of a cheater and a home wrecker? I have no compassion for these jackals, and I have no problem at all with that. The world is better off without them. They lie, they steal and they hurt innocent people. I would not ever involve myself with another woman's husband. I've had the opportunity to do that several times. I was attracted; I was in a bad marriage at the time; I could have convinced myself that I had a right another person's mate, but I was honorable. I have examined myself and I am expecting no more from others than I am willing to give them. Believe me, my judgement of this kind of situation is neither rash nor is it harsh. It is just that someone this noxious should get it back in spades it's justice that's all, unfortunately that doesn't happen very often, but when it does, I reserve the right to approve of the process. The Bible did allow for stoning adulterers and that was related to the lasting damage done to families I guess. I used to think that it was harsh and rash, but that was before my world was turned upside down by totally unnecessary acts of cruelty by two insensitive, selfish jerks.
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Just watching everyone go back and forth on this morality issue...

I think everyone agrees that an affair partner is skum. After all, this is a forum filled with BS and WS who most likely chose to recover their marriage or simply move on with their lives without lingering hurt.

But also I seriously doubt anyone here would kill an AP. Would we smile if someone else did...probably 90% of us would. But none of us are out there doing these things because we know we do not have the right to.
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Of course not! Then again, knowing how my wife feels about sex, if I saw her having sex with some guy, I would have to naturally assume she was being violently raped and any decent husband would take appropriate action. In my shaken state and through my tears, my aim might falter and she might accidently get hit, too. Naturally, I would feel awful about it, but what can ya do?
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Just watching everyone go back and forth on this morality issue...

I think everyone agrees that an affair partner is skum. After all, this is a forum filled with BS and WS who most likely chose to recover their marriage or simply move on with their lives without lingering hurt.

But also I seriously doubt anyone here would kill an AP. Would we smile if someone else did...probably 90% of us would. But none of us are out there doing these things because we know we do not have the right to.
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I have fantasies, but no I would never consider actual violence, precisely because I have no right to hurt others, and neither do betrayers. When they do, they move themselves into a category that is exempt from my compassion.
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Of course not! Then again, knowing how my wife feels about sex, if I saw her having sex with some guy, I would have to naturally assume she was being violently raped and any decent husband would take appropriate action. In my shaken state and through my tears, my aim might falter and she might accidently get hit, too. Naturally, I would feel awful about it, but what can ya do?
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It's only ludacris in your world. What a SWAT team intends to do depends on the circumstances.
No, it's not just "ludicrous" in my world. Most people don't ascribe to thinking that a cheater is more deserving of a headshot by a SWAT team than a murderer.
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Of course not! Then again, knowing how my wife feels about sex, if I saw her having sex with some guy, I would have to naturally assume she was being violently raped
being raped is not the same as your wife willingly having sex with another man.

And yes... I think we ALL agree that affair partners are scum.
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People assume that the spouse who cheated this this "criminal" was forced to cheat.

It takes two to cheat. The WW/H is probably more to blame than the one they are cheating with.


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Wow, where is the concern for the victim of a cheater and a home wrecker? I have no compassion for these jackals, and I have no problem at all with that. The world is better off without them. They lie, they steal and they hurt innocent people. I would not ever involve myself with another woman's husband. I've had the opportunity to do that several times. I was attracted; I was in a bad marriage at the time; I could have convinced myself that I had a right another person's mate, but I was honorable. I have examined myself and I am expecting no more from others than I am willing to give them. Believe me, my judgement of this kind of situation is neither rash nor is it harsh. It is just that someone this noxious should get it back in spades it's justice that's all, unfortunately that doesn't happen very often, but when it does, I reserve the right to approve of the process. The Bible did allow for stoning adulterers and that was related to the lasting damage done to families I guess. I used to think that it was harsh and rash, but that was before my world was turned upside down by totally unnecessary acts of cruelty by two insensitive, selfish jerks.
of course I have compassion... because he is a human... simply a man... full of flaws and faults like the rest of us...

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But as for me, when they were sick (in this case mind), my clothing (my own life) was sackcloth: I humbled my soul with fasting; and my prayer returned into mine own bosom. I behaved myself as though he had been my friend or brother: I bowed down heavily, as one that mourneth for his mother.

I can never ever imagine a time where I could EVER rejoice in the death of another... it is so utterly completely disrespectful to mankind and humanity...

I was immediately taken aback by the venom, utter lack of compassion, self-righteous attitudes of some posters... however I now can understand it is born of hurt and pain, ...this website is dedicated to it. I wish you all peace and healing...

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My house can get pretty dark and with all the screaming, it's perfectly understandable how someone might make a mistake. He was holding a short, blunt object and in the shadows, it looked like the barrel of a very small revolver. I feared for my wife's safety and for my own. Crap happens. Profuse apologies to all concerned.
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I can never ever imagine a time where I could EVER rejoice in the death of another... it is so utterly completely disrespectful to mankind and humanity...

Saddam Hussein? Adolf Hitler? Just a couple of men whose deaths were much celebrated, mainly because of their own utter and complete disrespect to mankind and humanity.
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My house can get pretty dark and with all the screaming, it's perfectly understandable how someone might make a mistake. He was holding a short, blunt object and in the shadows, it looked like the barrel of a very small revolver. I feared for my wife's safety and for my own. Crap happens. Profuse apologies to all concerned.
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My house can get pretty dark and with all the screaming, it's perfectly understandable how someone might make a mistake. He was holding a short, blunt object and in the shadows, it looked like the barrel of a very small revolver. I feared for my wife's safety and for my own. Crap happens. Profuse apologies to all concerned.
If someone breaks into my home in the middle of the night, I can only assume they are there to harm my family. I will shoot to kill. Where I live this is understood by all.

I would make the same assumption you made as well. Is there even a question about this?

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Saddam Hussein? Adolf Hitler? Just a couple of men whose deaths were much celebrated, mainly because of their own utter and complete disrespect to mankind and humanity.
Hussein...I did not celebrate... far from it.... was his and only his death warranted.. that is God to decide... and He did... he lived by the sword and so shall he die by the sword. The day I saw pictures of him on TV a mess of a human, all I felt was sorrow... sadness for the man and what he chose... be he christian, muslim, or otherwise... he was still just a man... I did mourn for a lost soul.

Hitler... the bent and warped mind of a Christian... his attrocites reach further than one could imagine in the modern age... He knew that his fate was sealed... he took his own life.. his own guarentee to hell without facing the judgement that would be at hand.... he was the false prophet spoke in Matthew 24 11-12. Do I mourn him.. yes... a man with ideals that went so incredibly wrong... but he was just a man....
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